Thursday, July 8, 2010

Our Affairs

My husband is having an affair with the stock market and I’m having an affair with my blog. Gotcha didn’t I?!? So we both have a hobby that involves the internet. He does research on stocks and I write and connect.
What’s startling is the profoundly negative effect the internet and social networking can have on a marriage. One of my friends knows a successful marriage counselor. Recently the counselor stated that 50% of her clients are being seen because of affairs over the internet. Yikes!
While the title and opening line for this post was a joke; real people are having real affairs which causes real problems and that’s no joke.
One has to wonder though, are so many of these affairs only happening because of the ease and anonymity of the internet or would these same peeps have cheated prior to the internet (which was, as a reminder, invented by Al Gore)?
What do you think?

19 comments:

  1. Haha! Boy that sounds like my house! I'm blogging/twitter/facebook/BlogFrog/MBC & then there is my husband doing his thing - maybe a video game or two. Yes, my husband is a big kid! Before, I picked up blogging I hated the video games. Now, well his video game is my blog. But I will admit we both get consumed with the internet. It's funny what would we be doing if they took the internet/cell phones away from us?

    I don't think the internet creates cheaters, they would still cheat. I just think it makes it a little easier for them to cheat -or convenient in some ways.

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  2. I think technology makes it easier to cheat but it definitely doesn't create a cheater. It opens the door for the emotional affair for sure. It's so much easier for people to connect and if each spouse is too caught up in the connections made online, we may be missing the connection with each other. I notice with my husband and I that there are days that we are absorbed in the internet and I have to remind myself that it's not a good substitute for quality time!

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  3. I agree with the previous comments that the internet makes it possible and easier to cheat but doesn't actually create the cheater.

    I do think that my husband and I spend too much time sitting across the room on our own separate computers though, I had better think about that! :)

    Thanks so much for joining us for Friendly Friday, have a great weekend!

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  4. Thanks for being a part of Friendly Friday! Following you back through GFC. Have a wonderful weekend!

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  5. I think I agree with everyone above. I do think it makes it easier to cheat but it's about the person doing the cheating. If they want to, they will whether they use the internet or not.

    My hubby plays video games - football mostly, which I can't stand to watch. Usually when he is playing a game, I'm on the computer but we have a pretty good balance of things.

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  6. I honestly have to say we have to make a conscious effort to "unplug" some nights. I'm such an online addict I usually have the laptop in my lap when we're watching a movie. My husband jokes that a movie must be really good if I put my laptop down!

    Thanks for stopping by! I'm following back :) Your daughter is a doll!

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  7. Technology might make it easier to cheat, but people were doing it long before the internet and will continue to do it in the future. Hubs and I definitely spend a lot of time on the internet, but we also make sure to spend time connecting as well, be it over dinner or turning off our laptops and enjoying a glass of wine together. It's about balance. Thanks for stopping by my blog! I'm following you too!

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  8. Thank you for following!! I am now your newest follower! You have such a great blog here, can't wait to read more! And I have to agree, I feel like sometimes I am having an affair with my blog. LOL. My husband is none-to-thrilled. But hey, I can't stand his nasty cigar hobby, so hey, it works! haha. :) ::Kristin::

    kuppykakesbykristin.blogspot.com

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  9. What a great post! I agree the internet makes it convenient to meet and connect with people. Sometimes it's easier than turning to each other after the kids are in bed, and then we're too tired to talk! However I do love it when Hubby and I talk beyond surface level! Have a great weekend, TV!

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  10. Haha! Love that post! I think too many of us can relate to that! Thanks for popping by my blog. I am now following you :)

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  11. Great post again TV! I think when a couple spends too much time with anything else it can have a strain on the relationship. Everything in moderation! Thank you for your comment today TV. It can be hard at times to work through such strong feelings of wanting another child. It has always been my dream to have more children, but it is all up to God. Have a good night!

    Mama Hen

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  14. Well, I don't know about affairs and such, but I met my hubby online, and now believe in having a soulmate! :) Thanks for becoming a follower of mine - I am now one of your newest ones too. :)

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  15. I agree I think that the internet might make it easier, but it doesn't make a cheater! I think the problems stem deeper and it is easy to blame the internet.
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  16. Love your blog! I am a late follower from Friday Follows - I hope to see you and Dropped Stitches!

    xo Erin
    droppedstitches72.blogspot.com

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  17. So nice to meet you, No cheating here. But sometimes my husband jokes and says he going to send me to blog "AA" meetings.

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  19. This is a great post! We definitely have a similar problem. My husband loves video games & I love the internet! But we've made an agreement that 2 nights a week we do nothing but hang out together - rent a movie, have some wine, etc. And then the rest of the nights, we have to be done with whatever we are doing by 10:00pm. My daughter goes to bed around 7:30pm & we go to bed around 11:00 or 11:30pm. So we can do our own thing for a little while & then spend some time together each night. It helps for us to know what to expect from our time & our week.

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