Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Being Sensitive To Criticism

I read an on-line article recently that quoted a woman saying something like “I used to be sensitive to criticism but later realized it was just information.” While the quote isn’t verbatim, I think it’s prophetic. Words, images and energy are continually floating among us. What we choose to do with these words, images and energy is our choice.


There are definitely certain people who provide feedback that I’m overly sensitive toward – for various reasons. If I remind myself that their opinion is just information and that I have a choice with how to handle it; then their words are no longer filled with animosity, they are just words.


What are your thoughts on being sensitive to criticism?

21 comments:

  1. That is so very true, however, at times it is challenging to remember that what they're saying is information. Especially when we either are emotionally involved in the matter that we are talking about, or if we have a strong opinion about it. Reminding ourselves is key, but it can be challenging to do that at the right time (and not several hours later).

    Thanks for making me think (once again)

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  2. I feel that it's not what you say but how you say. ISince I can be a little sensitive, I try to phrase things carefully. Criticism should always be constructive.

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  3. I'm very sensitive when I ask for my husband's opinion and he gives a negative one. It's weird because I really want his opinion. I just want him to always like whatever it is I'm asking him about.

    It's a good thing to be surrounded by honesty, it's just tough to appreciate.

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  4. wow, that really got me thinking for a while. I am not generally over sensitive to things unless it's that time of the month...lol, or if I'm pregnant and the hormones are flowing wild. Even in those times though it is good to be reminded of this. Words only have power over us if we let them and yes, people are entitled to their opinions. I hope to get to a point where I can let things roll off and not take them personally from certain people. Good food for thought so thank you and thanks for following:)

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  5. You got me thinking yet again! I think I'm OVER sensitive when the person saying these things is my husband or Mom...but other than that, I think over the years I've learned to take it with a grain of salt! Its definitely ALL about HOW YOU SAY IT that gets me fired up! I try to always say things nicely, especially if its a sensitive topic :)
    Thanks for getting me thinking YET again!!

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  6. Good post! I understand what you're saying. We have to keep in mind that our own sensitivities get in the way of reading things properly. Its also hard to come across the right way at times because its in written form and can be mis-understood.

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  7. I'm a sensitive person, sometimes it can be blinding and at times I feel like it's a borderline character flaw. I take things personally when I shouldn't. Constructive criticism I handle fairly well, but when I feel like it's not coming from a "I want the best for you" perspective then it becomes harder for me to swallow. I think half of it is the way it is presented and half is how you handle the information. Great Food for Thought!

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  8. Wow love this post. It really has me thinking. I am visiting from Mama's Nestwork and love your blog so i am proud to be your newest follower.

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  9. That is a really great way to look at criticism! I think that there are some people who's criticism will always hurt a little but, I think you are right if you look at it as a choice to take the information and do what you want with it, it would really help make the sting a bit more bearable! I hope you have had a great week!

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  10. I so agree with Joey & Casey: "Words only have power over us if we let them." So much of life depends on how we look at and take things that come our way. My husband is really good about accepting criticism and seeing the positive side of things: two lessons I'd do well to learn!

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  11. I think the critcism one gets from certain people can trigger things for various resons based on the relationship and the subject matter. I also think that there are some people who think they are being helpful, or pretend to be helpful, but can be hurtful. That is where the "think before you speak" comes in. For me, I think it depends on a lot of things. I seek advice and thoughts from tye places and people I respect and believe have my best interest at heart. Have a great night my friend!

    Mama Hen

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  12. Such a great post! It's normal to feel sensitive to criticism; after all the "sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me" chanted across school yards is simply not true.

    As adults though, we can remind ourselves the criticizer does not know the full picture so they're making uninformed comments. If they're offering constructive criticism, I'd take it better although the delivery is very important.

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  13. Oh wow! That's a great quote. Definitely something I needed to hear.

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  14. That is a great way to think of criticism!

    I've found that if something is worth doing or important, there will always be someone who won't agree or feel the need to criticize. I like to think I can handle criticism, but sometimes it's easier said than done. :)

    Have a great weekend!

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  15. Ooooo you reacher 200 followers! That is so much fun TV! Congratulations! I hope you have a great weekend!

    Mama Hen

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  16. OK I have got to get some sleep already! This is embarrassing with these typos! I am glad you "reacher" 200. Ha! So the English major wrote! :)

    Mama Hen

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  17. Hello neighbor in the Nestwork!! You know I love your blog already :) Thanks for your sweet comment about having fun and being hilarious, I'd love more of those days just sitting around kicking back with a bunch of fun-loving friends. Hope you have a great night!

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  18. it really is just the only way to get better at what you want to do in my opinion. you have to listen to what the critism is telling you

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  19. I really like that as a quote. I learnt to get better at handling well-meaning criticism when I was editing my novel - it took me a while to stop bristling and start listening, but I got there. It helped that the feedback was coming from people whose opinions I trust, and eventually I could step back and assess whether I agreed, without reacting in an emotional way to "protect" my words. It was definitely a learning experience.

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  20. Thank you for your sweet comment TV! Have a great night!

    Mama Hen

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  21. Soo very true about criticism, it's all in how we perceive and respond them. I believe that much of how we respond to criticism can depend on what's going on in our lives or how we feel at the time. Some days I feel like I can laugh at everything even my husband's silly jokes. Other days it's like he can look at me funny and i feel like I've been pinched.... Great post. Visiting you from Moms Bloggers Club. Stop by and visit me at Healthy Living and A Balanced You-www.aliciahunter.net

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