Saturday, August 28, 2010

Can You Change After...

Do you believe you can change your personality or world view much after age 30? Years ago I read, somewhere that people have a very limited capacity to change after 30. This may be true and even more so a decade ago when most people were married and already had kiddos by 30. Today, more of us are doing things a little later in life so perhaps we do have more capacity to change later in life. We also have access to more information than our parents, ideally making us more open to the world around us.
I do believe the older we get the more difficult it is to change aspects of our personality and world views. I also believe around/after 30 we have the wisdom to make the most significant changes to ourselves.
How about you, have you identified a quality you’d like to change in yourself particularly around/after 30? If so, were you able to change it and how did you do it?

11 comments:

  1. Hmmm...short answer: I don't know. I do think that people can change after 30, though. I'm 35. I think I've changed a bit. Or have I? I may need to ask my husband and get back with you. :) I love how you make me think deep thoughts!

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  2. I hope I don't stop changing after 30! Changing is growing and I don't think I'm there yet. I've seen people change past 30... the most dramatic changes stem from big events like divorce, loss, job changes, marriage. Every experience shapes us so I would think that as long as we're still experiencing new things then change is likely.

    Good question... made me think!

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  3. I know other people that have and haven't changed after 30. As for me, I'm not so sure I'm still changing, but I'd like to think I'm still growing in many ways as a person, wife and mother. I'm a firm believer in the fact that its never too late for change, so I'm optimistic! I totally LOVE how you make me explore myself with every post :) FUN!

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  4. I just turned 30 yesterday. My post tomorrow is about having an inkling that I might change something. Then I decided not to!

    I think it is possible at any age.

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  5. I am not quite 30 yet but in my own personal opinion I think that we all have the capacity to change if we really want to. I don't think it is ever easy to change something about yourself, but to say that we can't or that it is harder later, to me that is just an excuse for people not to change, or an excuse to give up because it is too hard. Change is hard no mater what age you are. It is all about the choice. I think that there are always things that one can improve upon, I hope that I never stop striving to better myself.

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  6. Great questions. I believe we don't ever stop learning, it's what we do with the information we get that determines whether we'll change or stay the same. I personally don't want to stay the same, I'm a big fan of improving, always finding ways to make things better. That can have its own set of problems which I won't go into here :)

    It's not impossible to change after 30, just more to "de-program" with each passing year. Thought becomes action becomes habits over time. Habits whether good or bad have a "memory" that need to be traced back to the root thoughts in order to change. Most people would rather stay in a place that may be unhealthy because they've developed a tolerance to the pain.

    I could go on and on, so how about I stop here and write a post to answer your questions, "How about you, have you identified a quality you’d like to change in yourself particularly around/after 30? If so, were you able to change it and how did you do it?"

    Really awesome post.

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  7. I am 34 and lovin it. I guess there isn't anything major I have changed about myself in the last couple of years. I just continually seem to get better about anxiety and worry and combating that.

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  8. Yes..growing, changing every day. It seems like every day the Lord teaches me something new that makes me grow or change my character or thoughts.

    The Bible says that even when we are 100 we are still like children to the Lord. I pray that I never become so complacent in my age that I resist the growth and change that the Lord wants for me.

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  9. Once again TV you have a great topic here! I believe that if a person truly wants to change a certain aspect of their lives that they can. I have seen it. I think that it is really hard to d though and that is why more people don't change and stay stuck in their ways. As with anything, you have to set your mind to do something before you can really make a change! have a great night!

    Mama Hen

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  10. Don't remember who said it, but someone said, "The only thing constant in life is change." I believe like many of your other followers that we all have the capapcity to change throughout our lives. We sometimes choose to close our minds to new ways of doing things or get "set in our ways" but I agree that with access to so much of the world and exposure to so many ways of doing things, we'd be wise to realize that change is inevitable and do our best to keep up. -E

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  11. I think change is good. I think change can come at any age if you put your mind to it.

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