Thursday, August 5, 2010

Money Can't Buy You Happiness

A friend suggested I create a post regarding the area we reside; it’s quite an area. We live in a retirement community; full of wealth and age. I have met some wonderful retired people here and I have met some of the most cantankerous and angry people here.
My friend’s suggestion came from an experience she had at a local grocery store. A husband and wife in their late 60’s, looking like they’ve been stuck in a wind storm with all their plastic surgery were verbally criticizing a woman in her 90’s for being slow at the meat counter. Ring, Ring, Hello Pot, This is Kettle, Your Black. Anyway, my friend approached this couple and told them they were being rude. Kudos to her for sticking up for the 90 year old!
The said couple clearly had money and were simply angry at the world. The reason for their anger: they are unhappy; in their case money filled up their accounts but not their hearts. (I realize not all wealthy or retired people are unhappy)
So this post is to remind us of two things: 1) be nice to Granny because someday that will be you and 2) money can make some things in life easier but when I see all the plastic surgery couples out there, I wonder….
Do you think $$ can buy you happiness?

17 comments:

  1. I don't think it can buy happiness because if you aren't happy with yourself to begin with...well then nothing is going to make you happy. Now can money make happiness more attainable..in some cases yes. I think it depends on the situation...and the way you use it.

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  2. Money absolutely cannot buy happiness. It can, however, temporarily provide fleeting moments of joy. I believe happiness (or lack thereof) in innate.

    Case in point...no matter how much you make, it never seems enough. The more you make, the more you spend. Are you any happier? Probably not.

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  3. We used to live in a similar retirement community and saw alot of the same things. Lives wasted away in pursuit of the greenback and fleeting joy. Likewise we saw plenty of lives that were lived in simplicity and were so FULL. It was a constant reminder of what sort of life I wanted to live.

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  4. Absolutely not. Happiness is a choice that you can make at any given moment - ANY given moment.

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  5. I don't make a whole lot as a teacher, but I am genuinely HAPPY and my life if full! I think for some people, money becomes their happiness. They let a "things" fulfill them instead of a "people" and relationships. So I guess the question then becomes, "What is a person's definition of happiness?"

    I am SO glad you stopped by my blog today because it gave me a chance to come over and visit. I love your blog and can't wait to read more and more! Gotta love the Nestwork for bringing us all together!

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  6. Oops! I should really start proofing things before I submit them- didn't mean to put the two "a's" in the third sentence. :)

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  7. I love your posts! I do not think money can buy true happiness...it can buy people a few minutes of happiness and joy but that is not fulfilling, like sometimes when I am stressed from my toddler a trip to the mall can buy me a few minutes of happiness haha but not true life long happiness that can only be obtained in my eyes through love and prayer.
    I see so many people who have money that are bitter and look down on others, and I see couples who do not have a lot but are completely happy! Then there are couples who do have money but still put their love and family first instead of their checkbook!
    Money is temporary, and happiness is a choice for sure

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  8. So true, for both! Money really doesn't buy happiness. So many times I hear people say they wish they were a certain celebrity and such and I wonder if they really thought about it, if they would actually want that. So many of the Rich and famous are lonely, and constantly hounded every minute of their lives. Sure money would be great, but I will take my life over that any day!

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  9. I have known too many people with money and they are NEVER truly happy. I told my husband from the beginning, people will ALWAYS have more than us but if our love is strong, we'll make it through anything. My dad thought money would buy happiness and while he was making the money, he was unfaithful, my mother divorced him and he pretty much lost SO much time that cannot be replaced...so, NO money does NOT buy happiness :) Great post!

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  10. Some of the most gracious people I know are really wealthy... and some of the rudest people I've met "look" wealthy. Having money does not mean you have a license to be rude.

    Stopping by from Mama's Nestwork.

    Mamahood, Among Other Things...

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  11. TV, such a great post!! No way does money buy happiness, but we're constantly bombarded with subtle messages and ads that it somehow does. It's true if we don't simplify our lives, it's easy to be sucked into that message; after all, we also need money to live. This is one of those delicate balance things.

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  12. Not the lasting kind. I do get happy when we go on vacations, however, and when we have new this or that. But, that happiness fades quickly. The things that make me happy such as laughing with my husband and sons, giving Eskimo kisses to my 5 y/o and being squeezed in a warm hug by my 2 y/o...money can't buy that. Thanks for this post! And thank you for the "foxy mama" compliment! Ha! I wish! Most days I look rather ragged, I must say. :)

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  13. Well, I think when you don't have any money, there's a whole different set of problems (thank God I've never been there), but once you're comfortable, more cash won't make you any happier.

    We live in a rural farming community and sometimes it seems like we are surrounded by old people. Sometimes we'll be at church or in a restaurant and look around and realize we are the only ones without grey hair. Like I said though, it's mainly a farming community, so these people have no money for plastic surgery!

    Just found you through The Nestwork and I am your newest follower!

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  14. I don't know that it's right to jump to conclusions that they're unhappy in life from this incident. Maybe they're just rude in general or were having a bad day...

    But I do agree, money can't buy happiness.

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  15. Well it can't buy happiness, but it could buy me that great pair of Guess sunglasses I saw at the mall today!

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  16. TV, we must live in the same neighborhood. Where I live Bentley's are commonplace, and so is arrogance and rudeness, although, those aren't characteristics reserved for those with wealth. I'm trying to teach my children that money and things do not buy happiness, and that people and relationships are what makes us happy. And, when I hit the sweet age of retirement, I hope I'm one of those happy, smiley elderly people, who runs off a tank of happy lifetime memories!

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  17. Ha! Love the topic Ms. TV. Always love your posts. Not going deep on this one - as our REAL HOUSEWIFE reminded us, "Money can't buy you class". I think many of these old boff's couldn't muster up class if it smacked them right in the Bentley!

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