Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Listening

“He who talks the most - listens least” That is a quote I came up with a few years ago while in a wacky mood with my sister. I don’t always put it to practice but there is strength in its words particularly if you are always talking or you’re a really good listener.


I am not a perfect listener but the more I listen, the better person I am. The more talking I do in a conversation the more concerned I am with what I’m going to say versus what anyone else has to say.

It should be fact that good listening skills save time and relationships. In business, good listening saves a lot of money and resources. In a relationship, good listening helps us hear what is and what is not being said.

What are you – a good listener or good talker? Are you working to change your listening skills for the better and if so how are you doing it?

15 comments:

  1. I try to be a good listener and I think I am. Unfortunately, I am forgetful and sometimes I come off as a bad listener because I forget what people tell me. I tend to forget the details, even in my own life. Now that I have Abby it's harder to be a good listener because if she's around I tend to get dragged away mid conversation. I'm often left wondering what the rest of the conversation would have brought!

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  2. I was called the dump truck in high school because I was known for willingly taking on everyone's baggage. It was too much to be honest and as I've gotten older I've tried to balance listening with also opening up to people which is not something I'm good at. On the other hand, I tend to talk too much when my mom calls me because I feel safest sharing with her...I'm working on that. :-)

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  3. I'm the listener, and this is often makes me appear shy, which I am not. I just don't say anything if I don't have anything meaningful to say. I don't talk just for the sake of talking. I have friends that call, and I just know that the entire conversation will be one-sided and I'll be listening while they blab on about whatever mundane life details they feel like blabbing about. I'm okay with that, but I don't do that to other people. Of course, when I really need to talk something out, the blabbers listen to me, so I guess it goes both ways...

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  4. I think I do both fairly well. I like to be an active listener and really be "there" in the coversation...but there are times when I could be a better listener and better communicator in general :)

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  5. That is so true! My son talks nonstop and is never listening.

    I'm trying to be a better listener. I've mastered it with my clients...now I just need to master it with my kids!

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  6. I'm a better talker, and one of my downfalls is not listening enough, but it's something I'm alwasy working on...

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  7. Great content! I'd like to think I'm a good listener. People come to me and feel comfortable enough to open up and share their struggles with me.

    A couple years ago, I attended a business training seminar and I discovered I wasn't as good a listener as I thought I was. Others said the same thing, LOL.

    I'm definitely working to change my listening skills for the better - I do my best not to assume I know what the other person is talking about when they say something I can relate to. I don't always succeed but I try to catch myself. Great post as always!!

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  8. I am a really good talker LOL, but I think that I can also be a really good listener too. I guess I must not be the worst listener because I seem to always have people calling me up to talk about something that they are going through and such. But, anyone who knows me know that I am also a big talker LOL

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  9. Hmmm... I am a healthy conversationalist. :)
    BUT I am a good listener too!

    I try to be mindful of my listening skills-

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  10. Other people obviously see me as a good listener. Complete strangers in the grocery store will tell me their life story while I'm trying to decide if I want Mexican blend shredded cheese or plain old colby-jack! LOL Nursing school made me even moreso when we learned all about "therapeutic communication." Offering false assurances is one area I really have to work on b/c I find myself wanting to make everything okay with words when sometimes silence is a better alternative. We have one mouth and two ears so we can listen twice as much as we speak.

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  11. Listening takes a lot more energy than talking. They've proven that scientifically and I concur from my experience listening to a 5-year-old that talks constantly.

    I've always been a good listener. This is why people tell me stuff I'd rather not hear!

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  12. I can be both. I am very in tune with trying not to talk too much so that I can listen to what someone is trying to say. But there sure are a lot of people who talk so much and never listen to a word you say. Have a great day!

    Mama Hen

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  13. Good listeners are always appreciated. I become a good listener or talker depending on the crowd. Some people love to talk, and I enjoy listening if they have good things to say. If there's a lull, I try to fill it.

    Thanks for your (always) thought-provoking post!

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  14. Hey TV! Just wanted to say hi! I can't believe I had not listened to my David Gray CD in years. It really is such a great one! I hope you have a good day my friend!

    Mama Hen

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  15. I try and be a good listener but I do catch myself at time talking to much!!

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