Monday, September 20, 2010

Living Up To Expectations

Are you living up to your life’s expectations?

Society, parents, partners all have/had certain expectations of what you should be like when you grew up. Some of us meet those demands while others take another path.

It is interesting to ascertain whether you’ve lived up to not only your parent’s etc., expectations but also your own personal expectations of yourself.

At times I wonder how my life would be if (fill in the blank). I have been a very active participant in the person and life I’ve created, so there are no big surprises. At the same time, I often wonder whether I am doing all I can with my life and abilities at this moment.

What about you, are you living up to your expectations?

13 comments:

  1. Oh, TV, when I read your first line, my automatic response was "No, not at all." Of course, my mind immediately jumped to the clutter that has overtaken my entire house. My expectation was that I would be a modern day "June Cleaver" (sans high heel pumps) living in a tidy Better Homes and Garden home where there's never sticky "mystery stuff" stuck on the refrigerator shelves, or dust on the baseboards or wrinkled laundry sitting in baskets for days on end. In the life I expected, I could truly do the "15-minute" tidy up that all of the not-so-helpful magazine articles boast about and not have to fret for weeks if someone says they may stop by. My kids would be happy and healthy from all of the high fiber, low sugar, organic and TASTY meals I took the time to learn to prepare as well as our family exercise time, etc...That was my expectation. My reality is far from this. The clutter never ends. There is sticky mystery stuff (I suspect the bottle of pickle relish that was knocked over) not only on my frig shelves but also on my kitchen floor. Dare I say my kids eat chicken nuggets & Hamburger Helper on a regular basis? And, my daughter is overweight. I think I live up to other people's expectations (well, certainly not my mother-in-law's b/c she didn't raise HER son to live like we live) because they just see the "final product" if I'm working on a project for PTA or baking a cake for a family gathering. I'll suffice it to say that maybe my expectations are not all that realistic and that's why I feel like I'm not living up to them. Didn't mean to write a comment longer than your post! -E

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  2. GREAT post, TV. In the past, living up to my expectations was too hard. My expectations were impossibly high (think perfectionism). I achieved a lot of them however I was not happy.

    Now I think of it as living toward my dream. That gives me hope and desire for whatever I've been designed to do - the particular gifts, experiences, strengths and weaknesses I have can all be used to produce and contribute something unique and fulfilling. That motivates me to keep going for it :)

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  3. I wonder about this often. I will never forget the fight I had with my Dad about taking time off of school. His expectation was for me to graduate, get my masters, and be successful. I do not regret my decision, it was the right one and life happens for a reason. Now, we can understand each others reasonings at the time. I finally, after 10 years, have my BS degree but no job in the field. However, I don't see myself as not living up to his expectations anymore. I did what was right and made the best of a bad situation. I think that's the only expectation we should have for anyone.

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  4. I think right now I am so busy with kids and home that I feel expectations are relegated to laundry baskets and the size of my hips. But yeah, there are a lot of things I wish I could have done more of. Travel is one. Making the NY Times best-seller is another. Sigh. ;)

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  5. Honestly, I think I have exceeded any expectations that were ever layed out for me...not to say that no one had any expectations, but I feel I have a very successful life. Mostly just in the fact that we lead a very simple life, we love our Heavenly Father, we try to be the best people we can be, and teach our children to be good people, and we try to serve other people. We don't have a lot of material things(we have everything we need, though), but we have a lot of love in our home, and that's more than I could have ever imagined having in my life. And my parents always tell me how proud they are of me for who I have become.

    Also, you have a blog award awaiting you, dear!!
    Kelsey

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  6. I am living up to my own expectations. Whether I am living up to others'? Don't know, don't care (too much). We can always wonder "what if."

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  7. TV lately I have been taking a look at many things in my life and know that there are changes to be made. It is amazing how blog posts from fellow bloggers such as yourself can really trigger the mind to start really thinking about things. Some of your recent posts have been doing that and David Gray in my car is like a little reminder of the posts and things I would like to work on. I feel as though I have so much to give and I have always wanted to make a positive difference on this earth. I have been tired lately though. I am always in pain in my back, neck and legs and I focus on Little Chick and giving her the best life possible. So somewhere I lost a part of me. This is part of the change I would like to work on. Have a great night!

    Mama Hen

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  8. Very good thoughts. I think I'm living up to my expectations. But I have so many of them. I'll let you know when I'm old and grey if I achieved all of my goals.

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  9. Regardless of how much I do, I still feel I can always do more. Laundry, clean, etc. I often have to stop myself. At the end of the day, I want to spend as much time with my children. Some things definitely take the back seat.

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  10. I'm trying, but really the end game is an accomplishment. That takes a lot of little day to day tasks that don't seem like they're paying off. If I can just do this one thing, I think I'll have met my own expectations. So the jury is still out on me.

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  11. Hey TV! Thank you for your sweet comment! Have a super night! :)

    Mama Hen

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  12. It's nice to hear so many other moms feel the way I do sometimes. Overwhelmed, and like my life consists of laundry, dishes, and trying to have as much family time as possible. I feel like I have lived up to other's expectations, but I always wonder if I am mothering as well as I could, should, etc. I always feel like there is something else I could be doing, or should be doing. Like baking more cookies or taking more time to play board games. I am a teacher, and am very confident in my abilities in my career, but parenting is way more difficult than anything else I've ever encountered!

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  13. I think I've lived up to the expectations of my parents, I'm a productive, healthy, happy member of society. I've met most of my own expectations too, major life goals that I had set for myself. I'm not as career driven as I thought I would be, I think motherhood has taken over that drive, which I didn't expect, but it happened, and it's not something that I would change. I think we all need to adjust our expectations here and there as we travel our own roads!

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