Sunday, October 17, 2010

Are You A Good Friend?

We have all kinds of relationships in our lives but the one that is the most voluntary is a friendship.

Some friends make us laugh, some are good listeners and some are good at both.

Have you ever wondered what kind of a friend you are? Are you a good listener or good at offering a laugh when a friend needs it? Have you ever asked your friends what kind of a friend you are?

Being a good friend to some is easy while being a good friend to others seems much more difficult.

My philosophy is that if a friendship is too difficult it’s probably not worth having. It also goes without saying that the quality of a friendship is exponentially more important than the quantity of friends.

So what are your thoughts on friendship and do you believe you’re a good friend?

18 comments:

  1. Hello, I'm a new follower from the Follow me Monday blog hop. Please follow me back.

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  2. Honestly, It's taken me a long time to find a handful of friends I'm compatible with. Being a mom is strange because it's more about the kids getting along than the mom's sometimes. Now that my daughter is in school I've had a chance to re-connect with friends on a level beyond hanging out at the playground together. I think I'm a good friend, but I'd still be hesitant to ask!

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  3. Honestly, I feel like I am a very good friend. I am always willing to lend an ear and help out when I can, the problem I have is that I am usually the person putting in all the effort. I am very fortunate to have a few very wonderful friends that I would call "true friends". If I am to gain more that would be wonderful but if not I am very content with having a few "true friends" and a bunch of "acquaintances"

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  4. hi! i found your blog through the follow me monday hop. i would love it if you could follow me back as well :)

    i agree, if a friendship is too much trouble to maintain between the two of you, it isn't worth it. i have had my fair share of these relationships and it is a huge relief to let it go!

    best,
    april

    www.marineparents.blogspot.com

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  5. Once I had my own children, I found that I had less time to hang out with some of my friends. The best friends I do have are those that I can go without chatting with for a bit and we pick up where we left off. Now that most of my friends have kids of their own, it's even harder to find time for just us.

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  6. I was always the one with a lot of friends, but my mom used to always say, "if you can count your FRIENDS on one hand, then you're doing good", I never understood that until I grew older and realized that a "FRIEND" is MUCH harder to find. my best friend and I can pick up after not talking for months and its right where we left off, like no time has passed...always there for each other NO MATTER WHAT. It took me growing up to be a truly good friend and I think I'm a good listener but yes, I think i'm the friend to call when in need of a good laugh!

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  7. Hi! New Follower from Follow Me Monday Blog Hop. Follow me at My Life as Mom and Wife!

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  8. It seems that lately my SIL is my best friend. We chat several times a week in one way or another. I only see my other friends once in a blue moon and may not hear from them for weeks on end. On the one hand, that to me is a true friend: when you can pick up wherever you left off and just keep on going even when you don't see each other often. On the other hand, I sometimes don't hear from my "friends" until they need something: their child needs to be picked up from school early, and they can't make it in time. That's what friends are for, right? It pains me that some of my so-called friendships have been reduced to the exchange of sporadic "send this to all of your sister-friends to tell them you love them"-type e-mails. I THINK I am a good friend. Like Hannah, I feel like I do a lot of the work to keep relationships going. It would be fun to see if my friends think the same!

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  9. Aww your little one is so adorable!

    I just found your blog through one of the blog hops! Have a great week.

    Amanda @ www.nutritionistreviews.com

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  10. I am very particular about who I allow into my life. However, I am a very loyal friend.

    I would rather focus on a few, than spread myself thin and only give a 1/4 of my "love."

    Friendship is very important to me.. and I take it very seriously!

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  11. Interesting post! I am a new follower from a blog hop. Would love for you to check out my blog and follow back!

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  12. Just a few good ones are good for me! I think the hardest thing about friendship is making new ones as adults!

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  14. I have learned that freinds come and go for whatever reason, but the true friendships last and stand the test of time. I am a good listener and a loyal friend. I have been hurt in life by perhaps expectiong the same or maybe too much. However, the great friends I have are blessings that I appreciate. Thank you for your kind words TV. Little Chick is still not feeling welll. She was exhausted today it broke it made me sad. I hope you are well! Have a great night my friend!

    Mama Hen

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  15. Interesting post. I think that too often people expect to get more out of a friendship than they wish to put into it. I think they're like any relationship and they will ebb and flow. I have a girl I consider my best friend and we see each other maybe twice a year but I know that if I needed her, I could pick upt the phone and she'd be right there no matter what. That's a true friend. She's been there for me enough times to not fear retaliation if she has to tell me like it is rather than sugar coat it and remain silent. True friends are definitely hard to come by but when they do... make a knot and hang on together! They're worth it.

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  16. I think I'm pretty good at friendships, of making them a priority, and making friends feel valued and important. However, I've had to learn the hard way that sometimes friendships run their course, and if I have to babysit the friendship then it probably is more one sided than it should be. I shouldn't be the one that is always calling and making the effort...it should go both ways.

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  17. I think in life I have very different friends. The best friend from 8th grade I still chat with as often as possible, the mommy friends I've collected by initiating contact with daycare moms, the work friends I've found through various jobs over the years. Each relationship differes, but in a good way.

    I agree - if it's too hard to maintain, then let it go. Life's short.

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  18. Hey girl...I think I'm a good friend. I'm very loyal and very honest, but I also expect a lot out of people, and that can be pressure. So I have to back off sometimes. But if someone ever needs anything, they know they can call me. And I've been blessed with the same.

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