Saturday, October 16, 2010

Boo to Mom Bloggers?

A friend of mine posted a link to an article on FB about how mom bloggers complain about their kiddos. These ‘Mom Complainer Bloggers’ exist and do so because they probably need to vent. At the same time there is a plethora of Mom bloggers that seem generally happy to have kiddos and subsequently I enjoy those sites more.

No one said raising little munchkins would be a piece of cake and therefore I don’t see the need to dwell on the fact that it’s hard. I’m not perfect and in my daily life I have moaned about this or that regarding KLV, but I’m human.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, even a negative comment about Mom bloggers. What I’m not sure anyone outside this blogging community realizes is that it’s indeed a community, it’s supportive and it’s a positive light to those that are brave enough to be a part of it.

Your turn, how do you feel about the topic?

12 comments:

  1. Some 'mommy complainer blogs' are, in my opinion, is an humorous twist to mommyland. The ones I've read have never been downright mean, just a comical vent on what a lot mothers/parents go through! Like you, I prefer reading about the sweeter side of motherhood, as they are more inspiring, but the complainer blogs are sometimes just as refreshing because I feel like I am not going through the hard times alone! It is indeed a community, and the support from fellow bloggers is amazing.

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  2. I think 'mom bloggers' get a bad rap. Just because I'm a mom that doesn't mean that's all I have to write about. Kids can really stress you out and as long as someone is being mean, their blog is their place to let out their frustrations. I stay away from blogs that are too complaint but that goes for blog written by men or women without children. I agree with Sommer J, it's much easier to listen to complaining when there's humor attached. That's something I can relate to because I find life funny!

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  3. I think we all share stories and can relate to one another and I admit, I enjoy reading blogs that deal with day to day humor of having kiddos! its funny and entertaining and as a mom, I feel better knowing I'm not the only one who has had that certain experience...its FUNNY! Now, I have come across several blogs that involve profanity and a pretty much 24/7 kid bashing, focusing on the negative...i stay away from those :)

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  4. I enjoy reading blogs from mommy bloggers regardless they are venting or complaining or enjoying or whatever.

    What I can't stand is people who think mommy bloggers (especially SAHM like myself) are free at home to be able to blog and rest at home all day long... these people didn't even realised I can only blog when my toddler is asleep... sigh...

    ~ Jenny ( http://www.imafulltimemummy.com/ )

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  5. I think many people who choose to blog in the first place do so as an outlet to share their life experiences. Let's face it, life is not always a bed of roses. I haven't come across any serious negative "kid-bashing" blogs, and I'm glad of it. I'd much rather a mom be seated at her computer blogging about how frustrated she is and receiving some positive feedback/suggestions from others who have been there done that than to take the frustration out on her child(ren). I've heard the blogosphere described as "free therapy" and I tend to agree. I think that's a good thing because we all need a little support from time to time. In summary, I don't mind the "mommy complainers" from time to time. They may be reaching out for support when they need it most. I think one can extricate herself or himself from a blog they deem too negative with the click of a button or two, right? Let's choose not to make the issue of negativity bigger than it is. Offer a kind word when you can and move on when you can't or won't.

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  6. I think that what makes the blogworld so special is that it is a community and the women tend to be very helpful and supportive. Perhaps there are moms who need to say how they are feeling on their blogs, because perhaps they do not have the support they need in their lives and this community can be helpful and comforting to them. I do not think anyones life is a fairy tale, so I try my best to stay positive. Have a great weekend TV.

    Mama Hen

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  7. In today's post I called my daughter "the pokiest child on the planet" or something like that. I give a full picture of our lives and doubt that anyone could leave my blog with the impression I constantly complain about her.

    People like to put mom's down in general. It's strange because we're very important - to everyone!

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  8. Too much negativity is always a downer, but telling it how it is--well that's just venting and maybe reaching out for help from others. I enjoy positive mom blogs, but I also enjoy the ones that I can nod my head as I read, because at some point I have felt that way too or had a similar experience. Being a parent is hard enough, we should all just work on supporting one another.

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  9. I absolutely believe that everyone is entitles to their opinion, and everyone needs a place to vent without being judged. I make every effort to stay positive, but I also keep it real, and sometimes my son does do things that annoy me, and I may mention them. I prefer spending time with positive people, though, in real life and in blog-land.

    I'm a new follower for Follow Me Monday. Lovely blog you have here!

    http://snipsandsnailsandtales.blogspot.com/

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  10. I think we all understand!

    As readers, we should carefully consider the context -- is it a frustrated and weary mom just venting, a rather comical mom making the most of tiring situations, or a glass-half-empty mom -- and avoid making quite judgments!

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  11. I think the ups and downs of motherhood are to be expected and blogged about. It's real, it's the way life goes. A few months back there was a "trend" of blogging about how awful each day was, the monotony, the exhaustion, this isn't what I signed up for or expected kind of tirade. It got to be so old. I just wanted to shake those bloggers by the shoulders and tell them to find a positive in it and celebrate the good. Thankfully, it was a short-lived trend ;)

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  12. I hadn't seen the post, but I can imagine if you read a rant on several blogs, you would jump to the quick conclusion that mom bloggers are cranky and anti-kid. However, I have to wonder how much time the individual invested into reading other posts on the various blogs they visited. It's so easy to jump to conclusions and make generalizations.

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