Wednesday, November 17, 2010

An Encounter…

We visit our local zoo every week and over time KLV has learned to love the rattlesnakes. She talks about them while we are there, on the way home and at night.

Today while in the Discovery Room at the zoo we traced a rattlesnake on paper with crayons. Good stuff! Trying to show KLV the finished product, she started to run in another direction. To my dismay another Mom popped her head around the corner and said, “She is too young to understand, how old is she?” Knowing there was so much wrong with that question, I responded. Mother XYZ, continued to tell me that KLV would understand more when she was 3 because she was a teacher of 3 and 4 year olds and they are great ages but blah blah blah.

I have never seen this woman before and certainly didn’t need a commentary about when KLV will understand rattlesnakes because she’s loved them since she was 1.5 years old.

At least with a rattlesnake they shake their rattler before they strike, this Mom came out without warning.

When these types of Moms slither into your experience, what do you do?

17 comments:

  1. ohhhh it never fails that Moms like that are ALWAYS around...and they feel NO shame in telling you how it is :) Ughhh! Makes me crazy, but I've learned to ignore it completely...it gets me too worked up otherwise! Glad she had a good time at the zoo checking out the rattlesnakes! Sorry about your encounter with CrazyMomma!!

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  2. You did the right thing. Just be nice and shake your head as she walks away. The best advice I ever got while pregnant, and am still reminded today, is that kids are just little people. Talk to them as you would anyone else and never underestimate what they understand. Even if Abby doesn't respond to something I say one day, she'll repeat it another. Glad you both had a great day at the zoo!

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  3. I thank then for their wise wisdon and continue on my merry way. To each his/her own. And go KLV. She's never too young to learn!! Does my child understand more as a 3 year old? Heck yea. But that doesn't mean I wasn't trying to engage and teach her at 1 or 2. Good for you, woman!

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  4. I hate when people like that go off like that! I have to say that I just do a lot of smile and nodding and then don't say anything LOL. I don't get people like that lady!

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  5. I usually tune those people out - trying to debate with them just makes them talk more nonsense.

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  6. I pretend I don't speak English, then I go back to speaking English to my kids.

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  7. Smile and then forget it. Anyone who thinks you should wait until your child is 3 or 4 to take them for an enriching learning experience is an idiot.

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  8. Oh my - I bet that is frustrating. Everyone has an opinion and advice. That's when you just smile and thank her and walk on.

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  9. Way to go, because I think I would have spout off before thinking. Monk is going to be 3 in Jan. and I always have people telling me how smart he is, but in an odd way. He has some random knowledge for a 3 year old :) Awesome Opossom for KLV to be such a smart cookie! (and Im a teacher saying that:) )

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  10. Maybe she thought she was trying to make you feel better or something - even though you didn't need it!

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  11. Grrrr... I have always maintained that the only thing worse than Other People's Children is Other Children's People. Everyone always has a helpful little suggestion about what should or shouldn't be happening with children at a certain age. You know what, they don't know our children, do they!? And as far as I can gather, kids all do things at completely different times!

    I LOVE that you little one is fascinated by rattlesnakes. So individual. (I rest my case!) x

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  12. A complete stranger telling you all about your daughter. That's something else. You handled it well, TV.

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  13. I just read a quote out of BHG this week that was pulled from an excerpt from the late 1800's and they were saying that readers still agree with it...leave parenting to the parent and don't meddle and that fact holds true even after all of these years! I'm sorry she acted like she knew what was best for your child. I think people forget to keep their mouths shut and I'm learning as I go how annoying things are as I experience them myself. I always say, "experience is the best teacher," and I learn what not to do to others when it bugs me. I guess this lady never learned that one though. bummer.

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  14. Yes, I usually ignore them. I certainly don't want to start an argument...perhaps I should defend myself...There seems to be a lot of moms out there with unsolicited advice. Why do other moms feel like it's okay to criticize? Shouldn't we all be praising each other? After all, we all, for the most part, have the same desired outcome--to be the best mom that we know how.

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  15. I think most people mean well when they offer unsolicited advice. They just don't realize how offensive it is to others. I would probably just offer a "thank for sharing" response and go on about my business. There's such a huge difference between asking for input and advice and just getting it when you'd rather not have it, especially when it comes to complete strangers!

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  16. Also, I meant to add that I think it is cool that KLV loves rattlesnakes. To this day my sister freaks out over anything to do with snakes. She will slam a book shut if it has a pic of a snake in it. I'm sure her 2-yr-old is developing the exact same "phobias."

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