Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Is Blogging Polite Snooping?

Many of us who blog, occasionally write about what blogging intrinsically does for us. There is another side to blogging that I often think about, snooping.

Much like any social media site we check out what friends/followers are up to. Yes it’s a way to communicate and stay connected. I wonder though, is it also an acceptable way of snooping around?

Since we give people permission to snoop around by way of what we do and do not post, it’s easily arguable no one is technically snooping.

My mind continues to wonder, would we walk around the street showing complete strangers photos of our family and sharing our inner thoughts about life? Most would say no, yet so many of us do it here.

Some of us share more here than we do with our families. Yet we don’t really know who is checking us out…

Back to the question at hand, like many social networking sites, do you believe blogging is polite snooping?

20 comments:

  1. Hum...Interesting. Well, I don't think I would call if snooping if blogs are open to the public. Now, reading your sister's private journal that was hidden in the back of her closet would be snooping. I like to think of it more like reading someone's memoire or authorized biography.

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  2. I think so. It depends on how open the blogger is, too. People love drama, so when someone is going through a rough period, I am sure those posts are read the most! Reading blogs is better than watching those reality tv programs, I tell ya. At least these stories are actually real!

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  3. Some blogs are basically personal diaries put online for all to read. Being into those would be some sort of snooping. Most are more like entertainment and I doubt the writers are disclosing anything that they deem too private. I think Facebook is definitely fueled by voyeurism.

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  4. Good thoughts. I think it can be. My wife is pretty adamant that I not put pics of her on the blog ... only occasionally is one allowed. Thanks for making us think about this.

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  5. Yes and no. I definitely think that there is an essence of socially acceptable snooping - but in a controled environment. I know I am careful (in a sense) what I will share. I do "seem" like an open book, but i leave out sooo much more.

    You are right though, if I met you for the first time - I would never show pics, or tell you anything personal.

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  6. little bit of both. I also think its like a big 'ol support group for all of us going through similar things in our lives...its a way to stay connected to those at the same place in our lives...at least for me. And there's an occassional, wanting to see what others are up to as well but not really snooping...I think facebook takes care of that :) Ha! Plus, I think i've met some FABULOUS women in the blogging world too! And no, I would probably NOT show a stranger pics of our family vacations among other things...ha, but it made me think! As always...

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  7. I might be going in a different direction than the question asks but I think blogging opens up doors for peoples lives to be "dissected" per say. It's usually the blogs with high traffic, drama, lots of readers or sensitive material (sick child or death) that have more problems with people snooping farther than just what is written in the posts. That is just going too far.

    I don't find regular blogging to be snooping if the information is written right there. The writers want us to read it and share openly about their lives. So no, it's not snooping to me.

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  8. This is a great question. I've always thought of Facebook as a way for people to snoop to a certain degree... I know some friend requests from random acquaintances are just that. I never thought of reading blogs as a way to snoop but I guess it is similar. I guess the difference for me is that I don't know most of the writers in real life so it feels more like getting to know someone than snooping. That being said, there are creepers out there and sometimes I do question whether I should be posting pictures online. Your right, I would never share them with a stranger.

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  9. I don't think of it as snooping, because people write things knowing people will read it. I can see the other side, though. Now that I've typed some more...maybe it IS polite snooping! Either way, I like it. :)

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  10. Hey, you put it out there for thr world to see, no complaining! (Good question though.)

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  11. I don't think it's snooping if the other person puts it all out there publicly for all to see.
    But I do agree that with all the social networking stuff around, we are sharing too much. I know people in real life who I actually liked BETTER before we became FB friends...there is such a thing as sharing too much!

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  12. Sometimes it's ironic how much we would share online knowing it's public information. I think most people want to be connected and feel like they can share who they are and not be judged. Blogging seems to help with that. I'd love for real life relationships to be just as open and accepting, if not more. This is a great question, TV!

    You're right, I would not walk around on the street showing pictures of my family. I even hesitate to do it on my blog too much simply because I'm paranoid about real snoopers who have bad intentions.

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  13. Maybe we cross the line when we e-mail our blog buds seeking more information than is published in their blog, but I agree with Carol above. Blogs are our lives presented as an "open book" of sorts. I don't think people would post stuff they wouldn't want everyone in the world to have access to.

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  14. I think yes and no, but I only put stuff out that I want people to know, nothing to personal since I am a pretty personal person! But I believe sometimes people like to be snoopy on facebook haha that is why I tend to only add friends that I know and am close to! I really hope there are no bad snoops out there but you never know that is why I try to protect my self as much as possible!

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  15. It could be. I can't control others, but I know I must write!

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  16. TV you are so cute! Snooping! Hmmmmm! Well, I have to say that my blog is something that I do for myself and for Little Chick first. It is a running journal that I am so happy that Blog2print is able to put in book form. I just did it and I am so happy with it. You should try it. It was very easy and a great thing for you and KLV. About the snooping, I think it is more about "connecting" with people and finding comfort when we need it and advice. I think people like getting ideas from other moms and knowing that they are not alone. Have a great night!
    Mama Hen

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  17. Yes, I think I'm snooping. Heck, I love to read about other people's lives and children. I get great advice from others, and it helps me feel like I'm not doing this whole parenting thing alone... Great question!

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  18. I'm a blog snooper for sure. Some I visit to enter a giveaway, others I visit to see fun family pictures, some I visit to read funny or interesting posts (like yours! - thought I LOVE when a new KLV pic shows up).

    TGIF, mama! Hope you all have a wonderful weekend. We're....(gasp) getting a babysitter for the first time ever (yes, that means in 3 years and yes we're losers and clingy parents, to each his/her own). Lily's responses to me trying to prep her for one deserve a blog post. Something to the effect of "I don't NEED someone to sit here, I'm not a baby, I can take care of myself." Ahh, to be 3 and so self-sufficient :)

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  19. I totally think it is a polite way to snoop (but also a way to find others to relate to) and I think it is easier and therapeutic to open up to people I will never meet. Much easier than talking to people who have expectations of me!

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  20. Living in Jakarta, I've always viewed blogging as citizen journalism, as a way to comment on my position within a society which I'm not fully part of. If I were, I'd be less of an observer and more of an activist.

    That said, I'm here because you left a comment on Tatterscoops, the blog of an Indonesian woman who gave some some help with the latest edition of Culture Shock! Jakarta.

    Given Indonesia's recent past - under the Suharto regime there was little free expression - any writing, even the online sharing of news about one's life, is to be encouraged.

    What I am not interested in is the minutae of one's whereabouts or 'how I kissed the cat and hit the boyfriend'. That daily tittle-tattle is best kept limited to one's close(d) social network.

    Or, as you say, a "cherished activity is spending time with good people", which I presume to mean face-to-face.

    Bye.

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