Saturday, November 20, 2010

My Life’s Miranda Rights

You know that part of the Miranda Rights, “Anything you say can and will be used against you…”

Don’t you just love it when your chit chat is misconstrued, rearranged then spit back out?

Perhaps I should be more of the quiet introverted type, and then my words cannot be skewed.

Perhaps I should just remember that I need to execute my personal Miranda Rights and censor myself more often.

Perhaps I should declare I’m just venting, prior to venting.

Do you have a personal Miranda Right mantra that you put into practice?

12 comments:

  1. Wow, this is my first visit since you updated KLV's photos. She has grown so much! Her eyes are simply "striking." I love the "KLV being real" shot-no bows, bells or whistles, just pure, innocent beauty!
    I sometimes speak first and think later. Actually, sometimes I have given thought to what I'm about to say and realize it may be not so nice but can't help myself from saying it anyway. Communication is such a delicate matter. I only really "vent" with my SIL and grin and bear it with the rest of the world. When I die, she will be the only one who knows how I REALLY felt about a lot of life's matters. I hate for other people to falsely accuse me of saying or failing to say something because they were not being a good listener when I said whatever. Don't want to take up all of your comment space, but I guess if I have a "mental mantra" of sorts it would be to "think before you speak."

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  2. Oh my dear, you are speaking my language. I just posted something yesterday (sort of ) the same issue. I WISH I could just learn to censor my speech a little more - but my filter is broken.

    I don't think idle chit chat (or ramblings) should ever be used against you. People talk, people randomly say things - the problem is - other people do not have the skills to see the various sides you may have been discussing.

    Good luck with this one - if you can figure it out, please oh please - share your secrets. ;-)

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  3. I think that often our words can be taken the wrong way. Even when we mean well. I have noticed some of my words coming back when Little Chick talks. Ugh! More lessons to learn. Thank you for being there TV during a difficult time. My mom has been in so much pain and it hurts me to see her like this. I appreciate all the support my bloggy friends like you have given me. Have a good nigh!

    Mama Hen

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  4. I think we all have times where our words get us into trouble...oh well, we are human and we all make mistakes! KLV is PRECIOUS with her books :)

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  5. It's too bad that we have to sensor ourselves when we need to vent but, it does seem like a logical way to protect ourselves from being misunderstood. I do love the handful of people in my life though that I can spew and vent to when necessary and they know exactly what I mean and that I am not a drama queen. Just need an ear and a minute to blow it off and then I'm good to go again:). Those folks keep me sane:).

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  6. I have to bite my tongue all the time at work when (clueless) new auditors ask me (stipid) old questions. Luckily for me, they haven't thrown anything I've said in my face :)

    Hope you V's are doing well!

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  7. Thank you for being so sweet TV. My mom is not well and it is really hurting me so much to see her this way. I appreciate your support. Have a good day! You should stop by and enter my giveaway. I never do them, but this ornament one was really cute! I think you might like it!

    Mama Hen

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  8. TV, I think I need to vow not to "angry text" my husband anymore! Enough said? LOL!

    Anyway, havent seen you over at Sofia's Ideas in a while. Hope you'll stop by & stay a bit! :)

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  9. I try to use I statements when I talk instead of you statements. It has really helped me when communicating during disageements. I feel... instead of You did this or that.
    What I have had more issues with is people misreading the tone of my texts or emails. Sometimes I just think it would be safer to call, that way things can't be misinterpretted.

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  10. TV, this is such a great topic. Years ago, I started sharing like an open book, after 2 decades of clamming up like a quiet introvert. The group of friends I was close with were great and very supportive; however after we all graduated from college and went our own separate ways I struggled to find the same quality of friendships.

    I was hurt more often than not from sharing who I was, so I stopped voicing things, stopped expressing myself. It's stifling. This is why I need to start sharing again. I have learned to be selective about what I share and with whom.

    It has not been easy and I'm grateful for all the lessons I've learned and still learning. Thanks for an insightful post to draw this out of me. Your posts make a difference in my life.

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  11. I'm pretty sure that anything I say will eventually come back at me as evidence that I'm a moron.

    I just embrace it!

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  12. Wow, great topic. I think it's healthy to vent, and I think that regardless of how much one tries, we all say things that could be misconstrued...it's life, it happens. Hopefully, when it does, the people around you give you an opportunity to explain it. As long as there is communication there is miscommunication, right?

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