Saturday, January 1, 2011

Forgiveness

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future” - Les Brown


In a world where so many don’t take responsibility for their actions there is another subset of humans that struggle to forgive themselves in order to move on.

Have you figured out how to forgive yourself and others?  If so, how?

14 comments:

  1. Wow, what a quote!! Do you have the book or article this quote is taken from? I'd love to use it, too.

    Good post, thanks. And Happy New Year.

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  2. Happy New Year to you!! I've been gone a while but, hope to get back into the swing of things:0. I had one gal friend who didn't like my hubby and as a result my hubby didn't care for her because she was rude and disrespectful to him. It was a weird situation that we had never before found ourselves in. One day things dissolved and I struggled wither forgiving this gal for nearly a year. Without an apology from her and after all the hurtful things that were said it was SO hard to move on from it even though we eventually moved to different states. One day the Lord began showing me that I needed to e-mail her and apologize for our wrong doings and clear the air. Would you believe that exact same day she beat me to the punch with a super long apology e-mail after over a year of not speaking!! God is good...I learned a lot from that situation. Forgiveness can be hard sometimes but, it sets us free.

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  3. It's really hard for me to answer this question -- on the surface, you can only forgive after being able to face the reality of the truth of the matter and calling a spade simply a spade and then realizing that although negative consequences cannot be totally eliminated, the future can be affected positively. For me, I can forgive because I know the person I really am and that my loving and perfect God forgave and forgives me.

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  4. Happy New Year to you and your precious family!

    Yes, I think I do a good job of forgiving, especially for the small stuff. However, I have NOT figured out a way to FORGET all of the things my father did in my past...unfaithfulness to my mother. It happened so long ago, yet I am still unable to forget...why is that??! Hmmm, maybe I'll work on that in 2011!!!

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  5. Happy New Year to you! I have a much easier time forgiving others then I do myself. I think it is because I am so much harder on myself and expect more from myself. Forgiveness is not easy but it is very freeing.
    I hope this new year brings you lots of Joy and Laughter!

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  6. I think I'd be much further ahead if I could forgive people right away instead of holding onto things for years as I'm apt to do. This is a good reminder - there's really no point in putting it off.

    Happy New Year!

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  7. I found it difficult to forgive major hurts until someone told me: "Just because you forgive and let them off your hook doesn't mean they're off God's hook."

    I learned that holding a grudge was selfishness on my part - especially since most of the "offenders" didn't even know about it - and forgiving was self-love because I let go of the hurt when I forgive. Whew! It's better to let go and let God handle the mess on both sides.

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  8. You have forgiven someone when you no longer allow anger/hate/sadness to control or rule you. It is so hard to explain. I am at peace with a certain someone in my life. Our relationship is far from perfect, but I can say that I forgive him.

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  9. Forgiveness is a hard thing to do sometimes and without us realizing it, if we do not forgive it can take away so much of "today". I struggle with it at times and I also battle with forgiving myself at times. You bring up such an important topic here. Great way to start the year. Forgiving can help us to move forward. I hope you are well my friend. Have a good night!

    Mama Hen

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  10. That picture of KLV at the top is so cute! Just stopped by to say hi my friend! My husband is still very tired and weak, but doing so much better. Thank you for asking. Have a great night!

    Mama Hen

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  11. Great reminder! Forgiving someone can be tricky, it doesn't mean we never feel the hurt again. It just means we let go of the right to claim they owe us something. And even after forgiving, I don't always forget. Sometimes we can be hardest on ourselves though - good to be aware of this. Thanks for stopping by and trying to leave a comment, I think it's fixed now :)

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  12. I realized how much more at peace I become when I don't beat myself up, so I decided to practice forgiving myself as often as possible. I also try to take that energy and put it to better use. Forgiving others is pretty much the same, harboring resentments will only make you sick-"Let go and Let GOD" I say.
    What a wonderful blog!!

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  13. Great quote! I agree with the comment above...forgiveness brings me peace.

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  14. This is easier said than done. I find it much easier to forgive others than to forgive myself. I expect so much more out of myself than I do others that I find it hard to let go of my mistakes. I am working on it every day though so I am getting better. Great post!!

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