Wednesday, January 26, 2011

What I Overheard…

As I was leaving the grocery store yesterday I followed two retired women. I heard one woman say to the other, “Everyone should have a therapist.” I almost laughed out loud because they are probably right.

We should all have someone we can talk openly and reflect with. I find some friends are better at talking about raising a child and family life, while others are better at talking about hopes, dreams, problems.

So what is it that makes a good therapist friend? Are you ‘that’ person for someone else?

11 comments:

  1. For me the best therapist friends are those who I can really be myself around in the good and the bad times. The ones I know won't judge me or think less of me if I am having a tough week as a mom or a wife and in turn the ones I am there for in the same way. Also, the ones who alwasy focus me back on Godly things so I stop thinking about myself;0. That would be funny to hear those ladies say that! lol. Thanks for the sweet comment on my blog today!

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  2. They are probably right! I am a very good listener and also like to give advice (only when asked of course) so I find myself in this role a lot. Life is definitely easier when you can really talk it out with a friend, spouse, or therapist.

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  3. They are definitely right! For me, my BFF Hannah (from Our Happy Home) is my "therapist". She's the first person I want to share good news with, or hash out what's going on in my head. And I love that she gives honest feedback, even if it wasn't the answer I was looking for.

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  4. Honestly, I think it just involves love. I know which friends love me just the same as a sibling, and so they really listen to me when I speak to them. I have two really close friends who a can tell anything to, and know they won't judge, they'll listen with a loving ear, and help me the best they can.

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  5. People try to make me into that person. I've learned that I have to shut it out. I tend to borrow other people's trouble, getting really upset over it. I keep the therapy stuff just between me and my husband. This is probably making us less than functional!

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  6. I think everyone needs someone to talk to. We all need friends that can listen. That is the most important thing is the listening and not judging. It is a blessing to have good friends who really care. I hope you are doing great. Have a good night!

    Mama Hen

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  7. oh I totally have friends like that...been there for me and helped me deal with SO many things throughout my life. You are SO right about different friends for diff issues and comfort for sure. yes, I'd like to think I'm that person for some of my friends too. I like to laugh and make others smile, so when my friends are down, I use laughter to hopefully cheer them up, and I'd like to think I'm a good listener too??!

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  8. I think I am that therapist friend moreso than the one who has therapist friends. The Sweet Potato Queens have a philosophy that every woman needs several men in her life. I don't remember the exact number, but the gist is: one who will listen, one who cooks, one with whom to go out dancing, etc...I think friends are the same way. There are some friends with whom I would never talk about "sex, drugs and rock 'n roll" per se but others with whom I'd feel comfortable sharing. People often feel comfortable sharing way too much information with me, and that's okay with me if it's okay with them!

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  9. It's so important to have someone to talk to. I think the best friends to go to are the ones who listen, show empathy, don't pass judgement and make you see the positive side. I try to be that for my friends too.

    Oh, and my winning ticket wasn't a winner. I was so disappointed!

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  10. I'm the therapist for my best friend since 8th grade. She will call with the weirdest questions. My therapist? My husband. I can share anything with him and he provides the best advice (usually - he IS a man!).

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  11. I have a few close friends that I can share everything with and they never judge. I love that about them. As for me, I love to motivate and inspire my friends to be their best...I love to make people feel good about themselves and their talents.

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