One of my super cool followers posed a great question; resulting in this post. Q: “…There are givers and takers, some more balanced than others. How do you deal with the takers that are family?”
Of course I’ll start with the, “It depends on the situation” answer then move to “You gotta set boundaries”.
All easier said than done but the key is to communicate how you are feeling to him/her (have examples), ask how they see the situation, and then provide a solution that sets the required boundaries - calmly.
In an ideal world family would never take advantage of each other. If a loved one is in dire need and its legit then we help them and feel good about it. If they take without warrant then they should not be receiving.
The ownership rests with the giver and that’s the crux of the problem because, in general, givers are caretakers and their self worth is wrapped up in the need to feel wanted and appreciated.
The situation is not easy because while we don’t want to hurt each others’ feelings we all deserve to be appreciated and loved.
What are your thoughts on the topic?