Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Being Judged

Lately, those closest to me are judging me. They are incredibly careful with their words but it’s obvious.
And while I want to scream and shout, I guess it’s my turn to be under the looking glass. Everyone with a personality gets put there from time to time; I’ve put enough people there. Only fair, right.

Perhaps the key - resist overreacting and taking deep balloon sized breaths. Or lots of wine?

How do you get through these kind of ‘I’m definitely being judged’ moments?

18 comments:

  1. UGHHHHHHHHH I hate being judged especially when you KNOW you are being judged. I usually just try to suck it up and smile through it as if I do not know lol. I am not one to jump down peoples throat or make it obvious that I know they are being rude, although sometimes I wish I could and would be more blunt! I wish I could be more upfront but I am not one for confrontation...too awkward for me lol

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  2. I do what I've been told to do my entire life and just don't take offense where offense is intended. You're strong! You're the bigger person! Hold to what you know to be true.

    After all, who are we if we can't be ourselves?

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  3. I have learned to let it roll off your back. Those who are judging you are no better than what they are judging you about. The person I worry about judging me, is God alone. His thoughts about my actions and personality are the only ones that matter.
    Hang in there!

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  4. I have to be honest: I get really upset and defensive when I think I'm being judged. I think it's because I work really hard to make good choices in my life. I tend to overanalyze, so when people are judging me, they're judging a decision I probably agonized over, probably spent hours thinking about.
    But I know the best thing to do is ignore it. I'm the one who has to live with it, so if it makes me and my family happy, who cares what someone else thinks? (Much MUCH easier said than done!)

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  5. I get really mad when people judge me. Of course, I'm one of the most judgmental people around. I just keep the judgments between me and my husband.

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  6. Depends who is judging me and if I care about their opinion or not. Either way, it's tough. Trust me, I'm right there with you...

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  7. Oh TV you and I always think alike. I wrote a post also when I was being judged. It felt better to get it out. I did quote Bob Marley "Judge not before you judge yourself". I think that kind critisism and concern where it might be needed out of love is good, but judgement not so good. Great post my friend. Have a great night!

    Mama Hen

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  8. I'm sorry that you are being treated this way. I think when people pass judgement it is generally their lack of understanding of a situation and it is so hurtful. I wish we could all remember the grace we have been shown and remember to show the same grace to each other. IT is SOO hard for me when people are judgemental. I feel that way with some family at times like they want to see me fail. I pray for them and I pray for myself to have the strength to not let their nastiness turn me into something ugly. God Bless you with the strength to be bigger than their pettiness. You are awesome!

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  9. uhhhh hate these moments....I always feel as though I'm being judged when I discipline in public. Or when my boys are acting up, I feel like some people judge, but not all...thankfully most have children of their own and they TOTALLY feel my pain :)

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  10. Ouch. I hate those moments. What I 'try' to do is to try to see things from their side and the motivation behind their judgement. What I usually find is someone who does not understand - is fearful (b/c they don't understand.. and we don't like what we don't understand.) Does that make any sense at all?

    I am sorry you are in this position .. but you are right, it does come around from time to time.

    I wish we could all just be like little children, and just be happy and roam with that innocent - nonjudgemental attitude. Alas.. we cannot. :-(

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  11. Oh yes, I know I'm being judged, especially at work. It's a hard realization to know that not everyone is going to like you or the decisions you make. In fact, I still don't know if I've completely surrendered to this reality. I have some all natural "mood boosting" supplements that help me out in this area ;)

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  12. Unfortunately there is no great way to get over being judged. I hate that feeling. Sometimes it probably is warranted but other times it is completely unfair. I usually go the wine route while breathing deeply, and it still affects my sleep. Hang in there. Someone else will be the focus very soon. : )

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  13. I think we are all guilty of judging others and being judged - it's human nature as sinful as it is. I try and remember that God is the only judge of me, and when I feel myself starting to get all "judgey" about someone else I tell myself to "shut it." Afterall, everyone is equal in the eyes of the Lord, no matter what choices we make.

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  14. I lock myself in a room lol quiet time always gives me strenghth

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  15. I'm sorry you're being judged, it's especially trying when it's with people closest to us. I'm experiencing, "I'm definitely being judged" moments too, and I try to remember, they don't really know me, so whatever they're judging is probably an extension of their own fears/insecurities. It helps me feel better, lol. Hey, thanks for stopping by and giving me a smile :)

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  16. Sometimes I get mad.

    Sometimes I get judgmental right back. (Careful: transformation still at work :)

    Sometimes, in my finer moments, I reflect on Scripture. This one gets to me: Eccl. 7:21-22. Change the word "cursed" to "spoken judgmentally" or "negatively" and, yeah, it applies. And brings me back down.

    Good post for generating discussion.

    Note: if you have time to read an interesting story about how one woman responding to some one else's judgement, read DJ's post here: http://titus2inaction.blogspot.com/search?updated-max=2011-02-28T09%3A22%3A00-05%3A00&max-results=3

    Her main blog, which is excellent, is The Quiet Quill, located here: http://thequietquill.blogspot.com/
    wb

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  17. I have most definitely been there. Though it tends to hurt in the beginning, later I revisit what the person said to or about me and try to decide how I really feel about it. Then I either decide to disregard it and move on or change my perspective and embrace some changes. In any case, it's not fun.

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