Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Thoughts, Feelings & Opinions

One of the hardest things to do is trust others with our thoughts.

I find that some fleeting thoughts are confused as personal opinions that shouldn’t be shared because they are simply temporary. These thoughts shouldn’t be trusted.  They are almost always the stuff we wish we could take back.  As a result I censor myself, particularly during a difficult time.

Speaking all that I’m feeling could bring on an act of war and who wants that?

Do you censor yourself, particularly during tough times?

17 comments:

  1. I do... I'm always afraid I'm going to offend or upset someone, which I just hate to do. I'm a pretty open-minded person, but I know some other people aren't, so I end up censoring myself to avoid conflict. And like you said, I'm afraid I will not feel the same way eventually but will have alienated someone by something I said that was just a temporary thought or frustration.

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  2. I definitely try to be mindful of what I write because some things are temporary. I would never want someone to read something and have their feelings hurt. However, my blog is a place for me to be real and sometimes I just need to get things out. If I do, I try to be vague and tactful even though my thoughts sometimes aren't. I hate to use the word censor because it makes me feel less 'real' but I do censor a bit in real life as well. I am a strong believer in negativity breeding more negativity so I do try to force myself to be more understanding and positive with both my written and spoken words even when inside I'm just a ball of negative emotions. Sometimes it helps make me see things differently.

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  3. I do, for the exact reasons that you said. Our emotions are easily changed, but not so much the minds of those who listen to that powerful ranting. I have one BFF who I confide all my worst fleeting thoughts to, and she to me, and we promise never to remember it afterward. That way, those thoughts stop being obsessive and can get cleared out to make way for the more rational, less emotional stuff.

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  4. There are only a very few people whom I can go uncensored no matter what...they know me and love me! Thank God for people like that! =)
    Lovely pictures of you & your little girl! She has beautiful eyes!

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  5. I censor myself always...to the point where it is a problem because I have trouble discussing sensitive situations with friends even when i should. I have trouble sticking up for myself or showing someone that I am upset. I save it for the hubs...he is the one that catches it all and those thoughts are safe with him!

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  6. OH SO MANY TIMES I have to bite my tongue and sensor myself. Sad but true. I have become homre outspoken with age though :) My hubby gets embarrassed sometimes with me in public, when I'll say a woman's perfume stinks...ha, guess that's my biggest sensor moments! LOL!

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  7. yes, yes yes!! Being in the season that we are in with my hubby who can barely handle his own emotions right now, I don't feel like I can share what I am feeling and thus I haven't much in several months. I was realizing though that even though I can chug along that way for a really long time I start feeling rather numb and I don't like that. Today I got to share a morsel with the hubs and it felt great. I think it's good to get thoughts out as long as we say things in love even if they do change. Sometimes we know something is super hormonal and we can keep quiet but, other times we aren't sure so getting it out can be freeing..for me at least;0

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  8. Yes I do. Although I value being real and open, there have been plenty of times I was misunderstood for sharing my feelings. I have learned to share selectively with those closest to me and even then, not always everything.

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  9. I am a pretty private person and I have been hurt so many times with thinking that because I am trustworthy that others are the same. I think I keep a lot of my feelings to myself. I have two friends who I can share with, but mostly I keep to myself to protect my feelings. TV I am finally getting my act together and am posting your article as the first article in the Nest. You can write as often as you would like. Just let me know when or if you would like to write again. Thank you! have a great day!

    Mama Hen

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  10. I have learned the hard way the importance of keeping my thoughts to myself. I, too, am fortunate to have a few select friends that I can tell all of my innermost feelings to without them judging or getting upset with me. Those are the people I enjoy spending most of my time with as well.

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  12. I need to censor myself more...it's one of my challenges! I tend to speak before I think, especially when I'm nervous.

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  13. I'm very open with my husband. We have this policy of telling each other everything, even if it's not something the other wants to hear. It results in fights sometimes, but it works. When I'm dealing with others, though, I censor my words. I think it's just polite to, and necessary, as long as I'm not deceptive. One can censor without lying, I believe.

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  14. Yes, I do....we are in the middle of a a deployment, so I censor a lot of what I tell my husband...

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  15. I'm generally a pretty open person but kinda depends on the situation. I will say that I disabled anonymous comments on my blog because I was not ok with some of the mean feedback that came along with it. So I do censor some things :)

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  16. I just seen you stopped by The Baby Place! Hello! Great Blog! and I do censor things on occasion. i am hot headed, so often times the words fly without thinking :(

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  17. I do think some thoughts are best left unsaid, but I'm still pretty open.

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