Monday, April 18, 2011

Seeing Each Other

Do you believe we really see each other?   More specifically when someone is down or off; do you notice?   When someone says everything is fine, do you always believe them? 

The monotony of life can create this unifocus on ourselves.  It may also create this unwillingness to want to really see people.  I’m not sure which.  

There are people in our lives that occasionally need more than a, “How’s it going?”  Sometimes they need a, “Hey are you sure your okay?” or , “Hey let’s go out for coffee.” 

Most families give each other tough love, but friends now they should be all about encouragement. 

“So, how are you really doing today?”

20 comments:

  1. great post, yet again! Hmm, today I am good. Tired, but good. Lots of laundry piled up, but good.

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  2. Aww, TV I love yah. I think you are such a gifted, straight to the point writer;0. I am a lot of things today. I'm a paradox of emotions if that makes sense. So grateful to God for all of his blessings, love, protection, strength, encouragement and guidance but, weary and spread a bit thin in this season with my hubby battling such a severe attack of depression and anxiety. The greatest of all these emotions is HOPE. Always holding tightly to that one! ;0. Thanks for asking! xo

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  3. What a great post and wonderful reminder of what it means to be a true friend. I am truly wonderful today! :)

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  4. I have not major complaints - I'm alive, life is good, God is good. I have a pretty keen sense when when friends say they are "good" but they are not. I think sometimes we are hesitant to ask for help (new moms) or hesitant to put our burdens on others, but we have to get past that or we'll end up overwhelmed and frustrated. Speaking out, talking it out, and leaning on others is paramount!

    Happy Monday, my friend!

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  5. Doing well, thanks for asking! How are you doing today?

    I am looking forward to a wonderful weekend ahead filled with Easter, friends visiting from out of town, and my son's 7th birthday.

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  6. TV you are seriously gifted. In so few words, you've voiced something I've wanted to ask close family & friends for years. Only maybe I wasn't ready for the answers. As for myself, thanks for asking - I'm hanging in there. Drawing on whatever strength I have for facing complicated emotions & decisions.

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  7. Wonderful post. I remember when I was in an intro to college class, some of the Kenyans in the course said one of the biggest differences they found over here was that Americans say how are you as greeting, not as a question of concern. I always think about that. I think this week is going to be great!
    www.crystalcattle.com

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  8. I think I see most people. Do I always try to help? Not so much. That could be a problem.

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  9. I get so sidetracked by your beautiful pictures! Love them!

    I do think that I can sense how a person is really doing, but I know I could do better at being more real in relationships. Thank you for the wise words!

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  10. I love this little reminder! Sometimes that is so necessary :)
    I'm doing good now that I've stumbled upon your sweet blog!
    xox

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  11. I know we just get used to our routine answers when someone asks, "How are you?" Our automatic response is good or fine. That's why you have to see through that to see what's really going on.

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  12. Congrats.. I've awarded you with The Versatile Blogger Award...

    http://thepurplefroggieclaystuff.blogspot.com/2011/04/versatile-blogger-award.html

    Have a great day!

    Cindy

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  13. I always try very hard to notice people and their moods. Such a good question though for us to all ask ourselves since so many of us are so busy all the time.

    I am now following you back.

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  14. That is always the most difficult question for me to answer--'how are you?'. I suppose, being asked that, sincerely that is, means you are 'seen'. And answering means you don't mind being seen. The difficulty is, we're sometimes ambivalent about that, aren't we? We're not always sure if we truly want to be seen. And of course we're not always sure if the other person is sincerely wanting to 'see' us. Anyway, I can keep babbling here. Just wanted to say thanks again for a meaningful post :-)

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  15. I've been so stressed and absent from everything but work lately that this really hit home! I have had a few friends that really saw me and took an interest in how I was really doing and have had a few that have been more oblivious than I have. I agree, as friends we should only always be encouraging. I've missed reading your blog! I hope I'm able to juggle being back for a while! : )

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  16. I've been stressed, frustrated, and sad. But I have responded "fine" to most people who ask. I think one of your earlier commentors nailed it. So often "we" are not sure if people talking to us REALLY want to know how we are doing, and sometimes I don't want people to know or ask more questions. What is funny is one time, in a crabby mood, I responded, "Not great" when someone asked. The person asking didn't respond and kept walking...I think it probably took a second or two to register what my answer had been. Or the person really didn't care. I thought it was funny because it brought to my attention that we ask that question as a greeting (like your other commentor mentioned) not as a question. Most of the time we don't really want to deal with another person's answer, especially an acquaintance. I have stuck with Hello and have a nice day as my informal greetings...seems more sincere.

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  17. Hi TV, stopping by to say hello - how are you? Your post inspired me :)

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  18. Just wanted to let you know that I'm following back!
    Lacie @ http://www.homegrowinghappiness.blogspot.com

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  19. I found your blog thanks to your comment you left on mine...and boy am I glad you did! I'm really enjoying your posts - they make me take a moment and reflect on myself and the way I live day-to-day in this world. Thank you! I'm a new follower :)

    Kristen
    Turning a House into a Home

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  20. I can barely concentrate on a reply as I am (still) chuckling over KLV's awesome top pick. Her smile is infectious!

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