Thursday, June 2, 2011

New Acquaintances or Friends

Recently our family had dinner with several new couples.  As I got to know them, I wondered, would we become ‘friends’?

Sometimes you connect with people and other times you don’t.   Sometimes your schedules jive and other times they don’t.  Sometimes the kiddos don’t play well or your values are different and then well, that settles that. 

How and why certain people connect is fascinating.  Then again people in general do fascinate me, particularly my friends. 

Your turn, are you good at sizing up whether acquaintances will become friends? 

9 comments:

  1. For me, it usually takes a few times if we get along well the first time. If our children do not play well together or our husbands don't have anything in common, the friendship never amounts to much. I have a few friends that my husband does not get along with their husbands but most of the time I try find couples friends.

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  2. I think there are more complications as families grow. Sometimes the husbands don't get along, sometimes the kids don't, or suddenly a couple has another kid and drops off the radar. Regardless, if the friendship is worth it, we try to make it work!

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  3. Interesting! I think friendships need to grow and evolve over time. It's hard to predict where a friendship will go, especially right off the cuff. How's that saying go? Build new friendships, but keep the old, one is silver, and the other gold. :)

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  4. I completely agree with this! I find that building new friendships can be a challenge, but also letting go of long term friendships is hard too. Sometimes we change our values and it's time to say good bye. I really love this post!

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  5. I think I'm pretty good at it...but lots has changed since having a baby. I find that I have less patience for people who are self-absorbed and that I want to spend time with quality people...not just fluff.

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  6. I'd like to believe I'm pretty good with it, although admittedly, since having a family of my own, (plus of course migrating), it's been hard finding REAL friendships. In the beginning I was almost obsessed with finding new friends but after a while I resigned myself to the idea that true and lasting friendships are just hard to come by and that if it doesn't happen, I won't force anything. It's too exhausting, lol! BTW, as to your comment on my site...well, I was just co-hosting. Had it been my own hop, the list would most likely be extremely sad looking. Oh well....

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  7. Great post! Since becoming a mom, it's been harder to keep up friendships in person. Many live a distance from us so now we keep up on Facebook sometimes. To become friends with new acquaintances, we'll need to have our schedules and values in sync somewhat. We can have differences but it sure helps to have something in common we can spend time doing together.

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  8. I just had a situation where I instantly hit it off with a person. We had so much in common it felt like we could talk for hours and that we had known each other for years. That has not happened to me in while...friendships take work. You usually have to nurture them to get them to grow.

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  9. Found through "finding joy". This is such an interesting question. I have not felt like my friend radar has been "on" lately so I've decided to try not to think about it so much. If I was meant to be true friends with someone it will happen organically. That is how I have found my best friendships. Thanks or provoking some thought ;)

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