Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Relationship Summit?

A boss once told me that he and his wife did two ‘marriage summits’ per year.  These summits would require them to sit down with an agenda and assess how their marriage was coming along.   The summits were not the only time they discussed their life together but it helped guarantee the air was cleared. 

I haven’t quite adopted the summit philosophy in my marriage but we do check in on each other often. 

Realizing that so many couples don’t communicate how they are feeling is shocking. 

Imagine all the happiness that couples could find again if they communicated honestly. 

How do you and your partner stay on track?

9 comments:

  1. My husband has always been a great communicator. However sometimes I am the one who holds it in. We just try to be honest with each other.

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  2. Great question! We do our best to check in with each other when he comes home from work. Usually I'm cooking dinner at that time so we talk while I cook. We're working on having more regular date nights cuz they're fun! It's pleasantly surprising how much more we discover about each other when we have a change in scenery and a chance to share how we're feeling with no interruptions.

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  3. I agree with you 100%...communiation is essential for a healthy marriage...healthy even in challenging times as we are in. If I need a hug, I don't sulk and assume my husband knows I need one, I ask for one. If I am stressed, I share with him why and he does likewise. Clearing the air on the little things is so liberating and then it keeps things from growing into big things!

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  4. hahahhahaa... Oh my.... Well... I guess I don't have to explain, right? ;-)

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  5. Date nights are always a great way to reconnect for us.

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  6. I agree with Kristy about date nights. However, a relationship summit sounds pretty interesting--as long as it's fun and not like managing a business. Our marriage is definitely happier when we communicate our feelings and are 100% honest with each other (even when my husband admits that he actually doesn't like going to the Christmas house tours I've been dragging him to the last couple of years...I actually thought he liked them...who knew?)

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  7. Communication is so hard, but so key. Knowing that we will continue to grow up for the rest of our lives, I'm constantly reassessing. I used to be quite passive aggressive instead of telling my previous boyfriends how I was feeling. So this time around, I have been much better about being upfront. Or telling him after the fact (once I have cooled off/am not so emotional).

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  8. we communicate like crazy! All the time. if something is bothering one of us, we TALK about it. We use honesty and make sure to take time for EACH OTHER...especially when that can get hard with two boys running around us all of the time!

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  9. Let me be very brief and honest here....I need that summit.

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