Friday, August 12, 2011

Knowing Too Much

Are there times when you wished you didn’t know so much about certain people in your life?  I do.  This happens when I find out the ugly stuff on people.  From there, I start judging and treating them differently.  Sure it’s good to know someone’s character but prejudging happens all too often.  

I have a friend that only sees the best in people, unless they prove her wrong. What an admirable quality. A quality I struggle with.

How about you; are there times you wished you didn’t know so much about people? 

12 comments:

  1. It is hard when you know too much about a person...makes it very difficult to see the good in them. I would have to say though I think I'm good about moving past those faults and trying to see the good.

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  2. I absolutely agree that when I know more of the bad in people it does make it harder for me to see them as I once did. I really fight to extend the same grace to them that has been extended to me but, it isn't easy all the time. Honestly, I think what I want to work on after thinking about your confession post is not talking badly about people even to my husband. I don't gossip but, with him I do for some reason...like it's safe with him but, it still is ugly and I don't like it. I too want to speak the best and see the best in others as that is how I would want to be seen!

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  3. You are right that we all start to judge and look at people differently. I think we all do it to some point. However, these are things to learn from. We are not perfect and nor are the other people out there. Like your friend, I think there is always good in everyone and I try to be objective. Sometimes this attitude has gotten me hurt over the past years because there have been a few people that I should have let go of much sooner. Have a great weekend!

    Mama Hen

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  4. I agree it can be hard when we know too much about people. There are times people share with us their frustrations about others and we question whether we've gossiped or were just venting. There's a fine line I think we need to respect. We all have flaws we don't wish to broadcast. I love Mama Hen's and your friend's quality of seeing the best in people, it's something I'd like to have too.

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  5. This is a tough one, TV.... Sometimes I see the good in people until the prove me wrong and then I get burned. Other times, I pre-judge. I guess I am learning to set different standards for different people as far as friends go....does that make sense?

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  6. I'm very blessed to have strong friendships in my life--these are the people that I know like books, and they are beautiful on the inside and outside. Sometimes I learn things about coworkers that I'd rather not know, but since they're not friends...I just try to look the other way.

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  7. I struggle with this. I tend to think very black and white. When I notice a quality in someone that is not so pleasant, it disappoints me. I want perfection! However, this is very unrealistic and childish thinking. I'm learning as I grow older to be comfortable with the grey areas of people and life. Not an easy task!

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  8. That's the great part about life- loving people for the good, bad and ugly. I guess I would rather know the full deal than just superficial stuff, but only on a select few. I don't think I could handle having everyone's issues in my head!

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  9. Yes, at work. I want to be able to treat everyone with at least professional respect/courtesy. But, people come to me with things, especially since I'm a school psychologist.

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  10. Yes, yes, and one more resounding YESSS! This is especially hard when it involves people from my husband's clan. I admit I was better off when I was still my naive self, lol!

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  11. Absolutely. We just vacationed with some "friends." I wish I didn't know as much about them as I do know. There is a certain amount of bliss in ignorance isn't there? Now I struggle to figure out exactly where to draw the friendship line....ugh!

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  12. Yes! And its not just when I see things for myself or when they share with me (TMI), but also when I hear things through the grapevine. I try not to engage when people want to gossip but sometimes hearing just the gist of it is enough to change my opinion, which I hate!

    I also try to see the best in people, but when they make it easy to see the ugly, its a challenge! LOL!

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