Wednesday, September 28, 2011

What's With All The Pressure...they're just toddlers

During a parents night at pre-school (KLV is going 2 mornings at week) a parent asked this question, “My daughter already knows her letters and numbers; is that all you’ll be teaching them this year?”  Now if my daughter was around 4+, I could understand the inquiry but these are 2.5-3year olds.  They are learning how to stand in a line and keep their hands to themselves.  I’m assuming most children in this class know how to count to 20 and know their ABCs but they are also developing social skills and that’s a very big deal. 

For me there is a bigger lesson here; sometimes it’s just as important to stop putting pressure on ourselves to be better in order to enjoy the process of becoming better. 

Because when we embrace and enjoy change; it’s more likely to stick, right?  

Also what do you think about all the pressure for toddlers to learn?

12 comments:

  1. So much more important at that age for children to learn social skills - play is their work - when they play they are learning how to deal with one another, how to share, how to take turns. These a true life lessons. The letters, writing, reading will come. No need to rush.

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  2. I think you are right...I don't understand why we push toddlers so much or just children in general. I hate to see people miss the joy of children...which means let kids be kids :)

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  3. Oh my goodness I just wrote a very long comment and it disapeared. Well, I said that the most important thing for children is to learn social skills and how to work cooperatively. They learn this at preschool through their interactions with one another and most importantly through play. This is far greater at this age than simply learning letters. This is a time where they learn to respect one another, share, wait in line, keep their hands to themselves, how to talk with one another, how to deal with communicating how they feel and what they need. They also learn their colors, shapes, opposites, how to open up their cups and straws at snack and lunch time, how to follow classroom rules and deal with all different types of personalities and temperments. There is so much that they learn and most importantly they should be learning through play. It is not something that is learned in a day or a year. These are life skills that will take a lifetime to learn. I was sorry to hear that you had a hard childhhod. I am happy to know that you found love my friend. You are a kindhearted woman and deserve all the love in the world. Have a great day!

    Mama Hen

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  4. These pressures are ridiculous. Now that my oldest is in kindergarten I can see how parents end up in this spot of pushing their children to excel. The expectations of Kindergartners has far exceeded what it was when we were young, now there is all this state testing, and teacher pay raises based on how the children excel. The pressures on school aged children are huge..then throw in parent's egos "my child is in the gifted class" or "my kid is in the high reading group" and parents lose sight of what is important...suddenly you begin to push your toddler to know these things so that they have an advantage in Kindergarten. It's insane. (I'd almost bet that this little girl has older siblings) Let the toddlers be toddlers...there is going to be so much unavoidable pressure on them in the near future...and for parents, there will be plenty of time to motivate and cheer on your children to learn bookwork...don't wear down the tires before the car has started moving. :)

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  5. See!...This is why those 'power-stroller-super-Moms' terrify me and make me want to run the opposite direction. They can be so insane and competitive. Yes, why the pressure??? The main reason I decided to put Noah through preschool is for social skills too, like what you said. He's an only child and I felt I needed him to be more comfortable with others. We all know we can teach them what they teach them in preschool, come on! It's for these kids to learn how to be with others, to learn that there is a world out there, to be comfortable with greater independence, to equip them better. Let's not take away the fun from these children's lives. Let them play, sing songs, listen to stories and run around. They may be learning something far more valuable and lasting with those experiences. :-)

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  6. I'm with you. Especially for preschool! If the parents want so much to challenge the child and it's only preschool, then maybe they should feel free to challenge her how they would like at home or involve her in some other programs.

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  7. Social skills are just as important, if not more important than the simple ABCs and 123s. Toddler world, which I'm yet to be a part of, definitely seems to have this pressure nowadays, but it's like these are just kids! Let them learn what they're going to learn when they're supposed to learn it. Right? Right. :) Happy hump day!

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  8. While I don't agree with the pressure for 2.5 year olds, I do not think there is anything wrong with a little pressure. Frankly, it seems parents need to take more responsibility for their children's education. In Atlanta we had a huge scandal recently where over 190 educators were accused of doctoring test scores to get bonuses for "improving" kids test results. Do I really want to leave my child's education in their hands? Nope. My parents made me study math and re-write books in Polish and I'm glad - it helped me retain the language skills. But I try not to pressure Lily too much despite working with her on writing and reading daily. If it starts to get tedious or stops being fun, we quit. Whew, sorry for the novel!

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  9. I agree, embracing change makes the process much more enjoyable and long-lasting. I think toddlers learn best when they're allowed to play and discover. You're right, there's more to preschool than learning numbers and letters, play and social skills being high on the list.

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  10. ugh, I hate hearing this. It happens at my son's preschool too. I figure they have the REST of their lives to take school seriously. Why can't they enjoy it, learn a little, socialize and make friends...why so much pressure on abc's and 123's??! Ugh, I'll never know...

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  11. Sometimes I find myself getting caught up in all the milestones and wanting my son to know more...then I remember that I didn't know so much as a kid. I mean really, I was just learning how to be potty trained at three, I was just starting to learn my alphabet at my son's age, and hey, I went to "public school" too, yet I turned out okay. As far as I'm concerned it's much more important that my son know that he's loved than to worry about how much he learned for the day/week.

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