Thursday, November 17, 2011

Comparisons

I recently read that we compare and determine our happiness level based on those around us.  Ahhh yes the old competitive spirit at work again. 

Is it natural to compare?  Should it be natural to be happy if those around us have less?   

Do you think comparisons drive us to be better or do they create a superficial internal unrest? 

8 comments:

  1. Not sure on this one...I can't stand when people always compare apples to oranges! Ya know? I think sometimes they help but other times they can create doubt when there shouldn't be...if that makes sense!

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  2. I really try hard not to compare, because I don't think it gets you anywhere. Each person has their own set of blessings and hardships, and often times we only see what we want to see. My mom told me once that "comparing yourself to others was a waste of time, there is always going to be someone who has more/less then you, people who seem happier/more sad, the only thing that matters is how you feel about your own life, and that you strive for what is best for you not what is best for others."
    Happy Friday! Love your playlist BTW :)

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  3. I wish comparisons didn't exist. Comparing drives me crazy sometimes. But at least I can acknowledge when I do it. If I'm in a happy place, I sometimes feel very guilty for being so happy and feeling so grateful when others around me are not, but then they takes away from the happiness. Does that make sense?

    Hope you've had a good week, and happy Friday!

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  4. Yes, I believe this. I happen to live in a very rich state--lots of huge houses and mansions around me. Before I know it, I'm daydreaming about living in one of these houses instead of being appreciative of what I have. Then, when I visit my relatives in other parts of the country, it puts things back into perspective... I don't understand why comparing, envy, etc. all has to be a part of human nature. I guess it's one of those learning lessons we need to go through in life...

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  5. I think comparisons are inevitable. The danger is when you get fixated on using another as your own standards and then end up unhappy. And I don't think it's good to be happy with the thought that others have less or are less than you.

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  6. I think its perfectly natural as well to compare. But when it comes to wanting to achieve or to acquire what others may have that I don't, to determine my own happiness, I must be aware and draw the line.

    Lisa x

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  7. I think it does both...I think you just have to keep a balance and not always wish you were more like someone else or have something that someone else has. But I do think it will make appreciate what you do have when others may not have the same blessings.

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  8. Great question! I think comparing is natural and if we value ourselves and others for the special & unique differences we each bring to the table, we can be happy for our friends' successes over our own.

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