Monday, November 14, 2011

The Harsh Truth

How do you handle it when someone gives you harsh feedback about yourself? 

For me it stings but that’s usually the feedback I remember the most. 

So why does it sometimes take harsh truths to get the point across?  For me, I’m a slow learner. In the past I’ve needed to get my feelings hurt to realize the error of my ways.

Today I’m more open to feedback resulting in kinder advice.

What do you do with overly direct feedback?

9 comments:

  1. It can still sting...but I've learned to deal with it. Of course we're all insecure sometimes when we here critical feedback but it's something we have to hear to be a better person.

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  2. I can totally relate to this! It stings like heck, but it's helping me become more self aware and a better person...

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  3. I don't like criticism. It has to be gentle, very very gentle, and with a solution or positive suggestion added to it so that it is not just a criticism in a vacuum.

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  4. Probably very similar. It stings. I listen. I mull it over. I try to contradict it and in my head rationalize my side. But if I take the time to consider the feedback, and realize my perception may be off kilter - then I can at least TRY to improve.

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  5. I think that people can give you the straight truth (in their eyes) without being mean about it. I want people to really tell me what they think, I don't do well with sugar coating. But they don't have to be cruel or sarcastic with how they tell me, because if they are it doesn't matter if they are right or wrong I will go straight into defensive mode and not listen.

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  6. Honestly, I still don't respond well to criticism, especially to harsh ones. They do sting and the one who gave them to me is usually marked for life, hahaha! There is that evolved part of me that knows I need to distance myself from the criticism and take the positive out of it, but the not so evolved part is just bruised and simmers in the hurt. I don't think I'm brave enough to always speak my mind and reveal just how hurt I was. Oh well...much work, much work....

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  7. i don't think any of us like criticism...we all react differently to it. I know I don't like to be told what I do wrong or differently. Those words, good or bad never leave us, sad but true.

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  8. Some advice can be wonderful and it can get us motivated to change things we might have wanted to, but do not work on. Other times, some truths can be hurtful if not gone about in the right way. I am always trying to work on my self. I guess it is how people go about what they are saying. I hope you are well! Have a great night!

    Mama Hen

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  9. I think feedback is good as long as it's delivered in a delicate, thoughtful manner. Still, even if it's delivered harshly, I do remember it--way too much! I wish people could be gentler with their advice or criticism. It would make our world a bit nicer.

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