Monday, November 7, 2011

Number of Friends?

According to a recent article most of us have 2 friends/discussion partners we can discuss important matters with. 

What’s equally as interesting is that the fewer friends we have the less likely we are to talk through problems which may lead to poorer outcomes in our lives. 

For me it comes down to quality over quantity.

How many real friends do you have?

12 comments:

  1. Friends are HARD to come by! I have a handful of friends that I can discuss a lot with but really only my husband and best friend on SUPER important things!

    Mostly hubs though! But I wouldn't have it any other way!!!Luckily I know he will be there til the end of time...poor sucker!:)

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  2. I agree...quality over quantity. I don't see how by having more "acquaintances" that you would talk through problems more.

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  3. I am blessed with several close friends that I talk to about truly personal things...out of that handful there are probably 3 that I would go to about anything and then there are a few I talk to about more specific issues, school/education/child behavior topics.

    **Thanks for your comment the other day on Momma Bear. I have a friend who is a big time MB and can get a little nasty with my 5 year old as she jumps in defence of her 5 year old. Mind you my 5 year old didn't mean anything bad by what she says, it just gets interrpreted that way. It's not a pleasant scenario.

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  4. I am so grateful to have a very close friend here where I live since my "old" best friends live so far away. As long as I have one close person, I'm good to go (in addition to my husband!)

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  5. Your posts are such chin scratchers for me:). I have a lot of "friends" due to living in so many different places. Sometimes I feel like I have so many and that perhaps that his why so few of them are deep and real. I have about 3 gals in my life that I could tell anything to and one of them is my momma. I honestly wish more of my friendships had that same ease, depth and honesty because they are so refreshing and I do not get tired socializing with them ever! I guess that just makes us cherish those people all the more as you say quality over quantity!! But why do they all have to live so far away from me:( lol

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  6. So timely, as I received phone calls from two of my friends who live far away! My true friends and I live rather open lives, and I'm so thankful we can still communicate and share (for good or bad). Love the sisterhood! =)

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  7. I am all about the quality over quantity too. And I think that the two friends thing makes complete sense. I probably have less than 10 real friends, and not all of them would be someone I would talk to about making a life choice. I know that there are a couple of them who I know I can always go to and get an honest opinion from even if its something I don't necessarily want to hear.

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  8. I really think I have quite a few. The ones I will call out of the blue during a week...hmmm, maybe 6 or 7? I talk to more girls than that on a monthly basis with book club, Girls' Night Out, etc. So thankful for friends!

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  9. I'm with you on quality over quantity. I think having too many friends to talk and hang out with would only stress me out given that I'm not a very social person. I have a number of real friends but scattered all over the world which makes it impossible to confide with them on a regular basis. Right now, I'd have to say I confide in 2 and I'm happy with that. :-)

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  10. such a true statement! I used to think quantity and as I've grown older and WISER, I see that is NOT the case at all.

    Great post :)

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  11. Yes I agree! Quality over quantity for depth and honesty. I confide in 3 friends, one of them's my sweet sister :)

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  12. Most of the time I discuss issues with my mom or my husband. When my issues are larger, I branch out to about five other close friends that I have...I have another six or so friends in another circle too that I talk to less but are very important to me as well. I'm very fortunate to still have good friends from high school, college, grad school, work, and now my mommy's group. I've even made some terrific bloggy friends :) Quality is definitely more imporant than quantity. I've been blessed to know so many wonderful people in my life.

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