Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Friend Moochers

Have you ever had a friend ‘heavily recruit’ your nanny or most favorite babysitter?  Not cool, right?  There are unwritten rules about this stuff!  Well what about a friend that ‘heavily recruits’ your friends?  For some reason it’s been happening in my circle and frankly it’s annoying. 

I get it that one of the most effective ways of meeting friends is through other like friends.  That being said when it’s obvious they don’t want you included – it’s hurtful.

When you are not inclusive, then you are exclusive for a reason and I can take a hint.  Apparently I'm not that cool after all :-)

I’m contemplating walking away from the ‘recruiter friend’ rather than confronting her because I need zero friend drama in my life. 

This ever happen to you?    

13 comments:

  1. OMG.. Yes, yes and YES!!!! I could go on for hours about "said" friend.. or friends. GRRR...

    You hit a button with me on that one.

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  3. Wow... Yes. I prefer to call them social climbers.

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  4. SO ANNOYING!!! YES, I say get rid of her right now, she's toxic. I let a friend like that stay in my life for WAY too long and now that she's gone, it was like a break-up...I'm free of friend DRAMA and it's never felt so good!!!

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  5. I totally can relate to and understand this one. I always used to introduce friends and then somehow I would get bumped out of the circle. I like that you're going to take the high road with this and walk away. It's better that way, I promise :)

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  6. Hey-

    Thanks for the comment today. I've been so crazy with work and the holidays I just haven't been posting or commenting. I still read...just in lurker mode. I hope all is well with you!

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  7. Yes this happened to me and it is not fun! Sorry you are having to deal with this!

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  8. TV, just walk away. You're right about the drama not being worth it. Besides, it's not that you're not cool. You're just probably too intelligent for them. I felt excluded a few years back and one of my nieces said something that stuck to me. She asked me, "Do you really want to be part of them when I think they're all losers anyway?" I knew she was trying to make me feel better but I also knew there was a grain of truth in that, lol!

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  9. yes yes it has happened to me and I would be so bold as to say it has probably happened to all women as there is always bound to be one friend that has selfish motives in a group...sad but true. I had a group of friends and we all hung out but, now 2 of them are best friends and they do everything exclusively. I feel that the 3rd wants to get in on their clique so she keeps trying but, I just don't like playing that game. Friendship should be a competition or a childish relationship...at least that is my opinion. I tend to move on and leave the drama in the dust too. Good luck friend!

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  10. make that friendship shouldn't be....lol

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  11. I would definitely just walk away, I would never want to compete with someone just to be included in their friendship. Reminds me of high school and that drama is no necessary! It amazes me when adults act like this. Making friends through current friends is probably the easiest way to meet people but I would never make my old friend feel unwanted. Old friends should always be kept near and dear!

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  12. That is very hurtful and it has happened to me. I let them go. I felt free after that from the hurt and from peole who just did not give as much as they took. Hope you are well my friend. I think you need to let go of anyone that is not respectful of you and creates drama.

    Mama Hen

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