Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Misunderstood in the Sisterhood

During a recent conversation with a good friend we were discussing how some female acquaintances seem misunderstood.  You know those women that are overly friendly and appear to try too hard and judged a little desperate accordingly. Then there are also those that are not as outgoing and may be perceived as rude and unfriendly.  

When I think about specific circumstances where this has happened I wonder are these women typically misunderstood throughout their life? Do they always struggle based on what they put out there or does the onus and shame belong to the group making the judgment?   

7 comments:

  1. Reminds me of the adage, You can't judge a book by its cover. It takes time to understand someone!

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  2. I always say that we should not judge others. We do not know what they are going through and what they are feeling. We are all different and should respect that in one another. I hope you are well TV! Have a great day! Have a great day!

    Mama Hen

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  3. I think both parties are guilty. I also try to put into perspective that when I'm in the shoes of the one judging, you never know if they're just quiet because they're guarded. For me, I'm very friendly, but it takes a long time for me to actually open up with people, which is just my shyness, but can be perceived as "bitchy" unfortunately.

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  4. You are so kind always TV. I am haninging in there. Being away and in nature is very healing. Thank you for checking in. I really appreciate it!

    Mama Hen

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  5. Hmm... That's a tough one. Thnak goodness, now that I am older, I can see through the tough facade, or the shy person, or the overly needed person. Social cues and stereotypes are the most fascinating!

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  6. Great question! Over the years I had seen a woman in town and I had formed an opinion of her simply because of what I perceived as her "personality." She was distant, didn't smile and seemed very unapproachable. Recently, we were at an event at school and I said hello to her and the floodgates opened. Out came this wonderful smile, and she and I launched into this great conversation. She was bubbly, upbeat and turns out she is a foster mom who has a passion for helping kids in need. Lesson learned!

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  7. I've run into times when I've been misunderstood. In high school I was shy and that was often perceived as being unfriendly and snobbish. Then there's been times when I've been called "flighty" or "air-headed" because I'm blonde and I have a high voice. What I've learned through the years are that my real friends are the ones that take the time to know me. I think we're all misjudged at one time or another...it takes that special person to go beyond perceptions and learn about who we truly are :)

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