Saturday, June 2, 2012

Get Over Yourself

During a conversation with two other parents I admitted I had to ‘get over myself’ in order to shop at this certain grocery store.  Call it snotty or pretentious.  The store is clean, convenient with great prices and selection but the cast of characters that also shop there freak me out from time to time. 

The fact is this post is less about this particular grocery store and more about humility. 

When I worked full-time, I had more money to blow on stuff, perhaps I let it define me.  My identity now resides under the family umbrella.  Sure I write (trying to get that children’s book published), and have an uber small marketing gig but I’m seen more for being a mom and home keeper than anything else. 

Some days I struggle with my role and then I remember I just have to get over myself. 

Ever find yourself in this kind of a parallel?

8 comments:

  1. Oh My - But yes. It happened it unemployment first. Then it happened when I turned my nose up at job opportunities that would be considered great for other people I knew. I sort of stopped and thought... geez, Nicole.. "Get over yourself."

    Yep.

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  2. I struggle with this too as a SAHM and I have to just get over it!

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  3. I can't relate as a mom, but I get that "get over yourself" concept. It's hard at times (since my role in my current job became something I wasn't planning on), but I just had to get over myself and deal with it.

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  4. Yes, I find myself there EVERY week. I receive WIC. This allows me to be a SAHM while my husband works his butt off to support us in the best way he can WHILE he goes to seminary full-time. I came from a upper middle-class family. Never had a want for anything. And nowadays, I find myself hemming and hawing over whether I should get milk or toilet (because I can't always afford both). It WOULD be easier for me to just "go back to work"...but this is the life I believe God has chosen for me. So we trust. We live. And I do my best to "get over myself" too. It's hard. But I wouldn't change a single thing. Those babies are worth that awkward feeling that runs through my veins each time I hand the cashier my WIC checks (and then apologize to the customer behind me...)

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  5. Yep count me in. I'm still having difficulties with my self-definition(s) and sense of autonomy as a SAHM. Internal conflicts are really much harder to settle than external ones *sigh*

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  6. Yes, it's a matter of priorities. And sometimes, like you discovered, we have to check our personal bias, even though those often lie dormant!

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  7. Um, yes, this morning...when I woke up at 4:45am stressing out about a new job I took a week ago, a disastrous department of 30 people I need to completely restructure, hire/fire in the next 6 months. I had to remind myself to calm down and move on with life and get over myself! Deep breath and a run this morning to de-stress!

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  8. I'm learning that it's hard to find that place of true self-contentment. When I was a SAHM, I dreamed of writing my own book, and I spent alone time thinking of ways I could make more money for my family. Now I'm working part-time, and my employer is forcing me to go full-time (in about 6 months). The pay is great, I have a noteworthy title, and now what do I want to do?--spend more quality time with Lewie before he grows up. Happiness...it's really all about living fully in the present and not worrying about what may happen in the future. I have to get back to that place, and I have a lot of soul-searching to do too. Is it money that's going to make me happy or is it spending quality time with my little guy? I know the answer...now I need to do something about it. What a great post!

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