Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Accepting Your Role

My Mom sent me this radical commencement speech from somewhere and other than a bunch of crazy uber radical rhetoric, something stuck out as poignant, “Nobody really wants to accept the blame for his or her position in life.”  Huh. 

When you are feeling like Mr. or Mrs. Yuk about your life, do you look around the room or do you look in the mirror? 

Me, well even two years ago I would have said I’d glance at myself and then look around the room for answers/blame.  Today, I only have myself to hold accountable for my successes and failures.  I know these truths: Life is not fair. Nobody owes me anything.  People and events are unpredictable and tomorrow may never come. 

I’ve created my little world. I’ve made decisions that have brought me here. 

I wonder though, why do so many people struggle with this concept of accepting his/her position?

To that point, Happy 4th of July! Go celebrate your independence to make a change :-) 

11 comments:

  1. I believe the quote your mother sent was from Neal Boortz, a deeply disturbed man. But I like your positive response to it!

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  2. That's that age old expression - "It's all about being self aware." So many people are not. I think bloggers are hypersensitive to it all. :-)

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  3. Hmmmm.... I'm on vacation right now w 9 other people. I wan to digest this before i further comment. I think this is too impt to be quiet abt.

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  4. Hmmmm.... I'm on vacation right now w 9 other people. I wan to digest this before i further comment. I think this is too impt to be quiet abt.

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  5. I think it's easy to place blame on others. There are always a million excuses but we (myself included) easily forget that OUR choices are our's alone. It's hard to be that honest with yourself!

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  6. Oh gee, the old blame game! Well, I think it can be hard to look at ourselves at times. But we do need to take responsibility for our lives. This is a great post my friend! I hope you are doing well! Have a great night!

    Mama Hen

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  7. I think it's hard for people to look in the mirror and "own" it. It's just much easier to use displacement and blame others!

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  8. Just stopped by to say hi! I did not get to the books over vacation. It was busy! :) I hope you are well my friend!

    Mama Hen

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  9. ha! I guess being honest with ourselves is one of the toughest things EVER!

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  10. Wow. This is really making me think. There are times when I feel like I'm in charge of everything in life, but then there are times when I think parts of my life just seem to be predestined--like a higher power purposely closed one door to make another one available. All in all, I don't believe in the blame game. I can't blame people for my successes and failures. Still, I'm not entirely positive I'm the one who's created my own little universe. Some is from me, and some of it is from what was handed to me. I just feel very fortunate that I've been given a healthy little boy and that we as a family, for the most part, have been able to enjoy health and happiness.

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  11. Ok I was in the middle of writing a LONG comment and it just disappeared.....grrrr, silly laptop. ANyway....

    Accountability is a difficult thing. It's so much easier to accept that where we are and things that are around us are just happening to us, instead of our own doing and within our control. If one chooses to believe that things are just handed to us instead of being chosen by us / that we had a role in them, then that also means that should we find ourselves in a bad situation, we can always choose to believe that there is also nothing we can do to change it. Rejecting the notion of accountability is full acceptance of complacency, isn't it? If we believe that we had nothing to do with what's going on or for how things are progressing, then it makes it easier to accept and not complain and ignore and just be. But once we see our role in how things are shaped, then the possibility for change is always there, although that ALWAYS implies HARD WORK. Accountability is never painless. This is why it is always difficult for any of us to choose it.

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