Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Trusting Yourself Not to Worry

A friend shared that her Mom has constant worry anxiety.  She worries about almost everything almost all the time. 

I wondered do people who worry a lot worry because that’s the only thing they can control – their level of worry.  Or is it that they cannot quiet the mind about all the things that they cannot control?   

No secret here, there are things in this world that we can control and things we cannot control.  When worry controls your thoughts and subsequently life it must be overwhelming.

I have to wonder do chronic worriers just need to let go of this ball of worry? Perhaps they need to trust themselves enough that regardless of how much they worry, life is going to happen.  One way or the other.    

Thoughts?

11 comments:

  1. Worry is a tough one. We know it doesn't help yet it's hard to give up. I'm getting better but I totally relate to your mom.

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  2. Some worry is mental rehearsal of emergencies and dangers that results in useful action, in precaution and preparedness. Some worry has no particular object and suggests an anxiety disorder. It's a kind of fear that can't be entirely dismissed; I try not to worry about it but don't always succeed.

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  3. I think some is just quieting the mind...like you need a switch...I know sometimes when I'm trying to go to sleep I'll run a list of things through my mind or worries that I might have.

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  4. With endless worry comes stress and more stress. I think we all have different levels of worry. Learning how to quiet the mind is an important part of getting through the things we simply can not control. Hope you are well my friend!

    Mama Hen

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  5. love this. Now that I'm a Momma, I worry like crazy. I used to never worry, but it's like every little things freaks me out...

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  6. Happy Mother's Day Tesha! I have to say that I have days when I'm fine, and there's days when I have to remind myself to stop worrying. Like you say, life is going to happen no matter what... With that said, I'm sure glad my son isn't a teenager or driving yet; I may have to see a professional when this time comes :)

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  7. Happy Mother's Day my friend! have a great day!

    Mama Hen

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  8. Have a great weekend my friend! I hope all is well!

    mama Hen

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  9. I'm guessing it's no secret to you that I'm a worrier. I've been working very hard to control this, or better yet, change this. Some days are better than others, that I can say. I think it's more the second option you mentioned; that for me I worry 'cos I can't control my thoughts and am overwhelmed by the things I can't control. That has been key for me lately when I try to calm myself down. I keep thinking that all I can do is do my best with the things I can control and then let go. Again as you may already know, what I worry about the most is Noah's health / my trying not to get him sick. In a way that's crazy isn't it? Every person catches a cold, gets a cough, fever, etc. All I can do is do the usual recommendations (e.g. have him eat well, rest well, wash hands, etc). The problem is when I worry beyond that and I worry about being in public, taking plane rides, etc. And I know all that takes away the joy and the fun in our lives. So, I lose. The best remedy I've found other than 'staying clean and eating well' is prayer. Really, it's just prayer. Sorry for this long comment. I'm worried I might not get my point across! Hahahahhaha....kidding! ;-)

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  10. Hope all is well my friend! Just stopping by to say hi!

    Mama Hen

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